IS IT Better late Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 So I haven't posted on LS in prob 4-months or so, I'm not really sure how long ago it was but check the archives to see just how heart broken I was. I was in terrible shape after she pushed me out of her life, I lost 15lbs b/c I could barely eat and I was in the fight or flight response mode for prob 2-months. Not sleeping and anxious all the time. The reason I haven't posted on here in so long is she came back into my life and we went back to dating and things were going well again. She had really warmed up to me and was once again trying to get close to me. So after about 2 and 1/2 months of dating again I start to see things shift again. She's becoming cold and distant again just like she did the first go around. I was much more prepared this time around b/c I've seen this behavior from her before. Even though it still puzzles me how someone who seems really into you can change in a matter of a few weeks. At this point we haven't seen each other in over 3-weeks and she declined my last attempt to make a date with her. So I'm going back to the good ole life on NC. It's different this time around though, don't get me wrong I'm hurting again and I miss her terribly. But what can I do? It takes two to make relationship work and she hasn't done her part. This really sucks b/c I'm not that young anymore mid 30's and on paper she was everything I wanted. But at the end of the day this is on her! My self esteem took a huge hit when she first dumped me earlier this year but now I realize after giving this a second chance that nothing I could do can make this work. Her loss!!! I'm hurting again but just a few days removed from not speaking to her and 3 weeks from seeing her, I'm going be ok this time. Keep your head up for all those who are going through heartache!! 5
me85 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Same here buddy! Same exact thing happened to me. Only my ex came back a week and a half after I completely closed the door on him and told him not to text me, call me...nothing! because I was not going to keep going through the back and forth "I don't know what I want BS" wishy washy crap. Anyway...I shut the door on him and that first week after he seemed devasted & said he thinks we'll end up being together forever, BLAH BLAH BLAH. LIES ALL LIES. Then the second week of NC from me, he sent me a message on FB "setting us free because I had deleted our pictures off my page. You have moved on now shall I." So?? Ok. Do what you have to. I should have deleted him first but didn't want to be petty or like I was already dating again and just keeping it from him. Well come to find out that was exactly his intent by deleting me then proceeded to block me once he found out I knew he was talking to another girl. It was already over, I ultimately got rid of HIM but he needed to feel like he was the one getting rid of ME. So stupid. Fine whatever. Nothing but a huge waste of my time and nearly 3 years of my life. Thanks for the post!!!!
mtnbiker3000 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Sorry this happened. But a perfect example of why to stay NC and avoid bread crumbs and an ex trying to worm their way back. You broke up for a good reason and chances are nothing will change for round 2, 3, etc... Good luck on this go of recovery and please, stay NC and move on from this person forever...
StraylightRun24 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Better Late, I hate to see you back on here again posting about the same girl. However I think now that she walked away from your relationship not once but twice in the last 6 months or so you'll have a lot easier time moving on this time. Yes it sucks but this just proves that she isn't "the one." (I hate that term btw!) It's unfortunate that you are going through all the immediate breakup blues again but I honestly think you'll be off to bigger and better things in no time after her little repeat disappearing act. Always remember to keep your head held high my friend! 1
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 What made her become cold and distant this time? Was it the same reasons? I dunno what reasons, maybe getting closer or talking about certain things? Straylight, awesome username! I love that band, had them on a lot this month. Jimmy Eat World are freaking awesome too!
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