omarthedude Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Long story short, been talking to this girl for a while. She's decent. We went out 2 weeks ago, had a good time. She stopped messaging me in the way that she used to. My gut tells me that she's losing interest. I have other girls to date and don't want to waste time with this one if this isn't going anywhere. Last week, I told her about this event that's happening this week and that it'd be fun if we could hit it up together. I called, didn't text! She said, "I'll get back to you on that one." Now, I took that hint and backed off. However, she keeps talking and keeping up. I'm confused. Last night, I reminded her about the event by asking her if she had work on Thursday. Her reply this morning: "Oh yeah, I told you I'd get back to you. Unfortunately, I have a shift from 3-12 pm and then I have to go buy some ingredients to bake a cake for my friend's surprise birthday party." This excuse may or may not be true, I'm not in the business of suspecting. On our first date, she literally changed her shift to a different time just to see me. So it's clear now that she has certainly lost interest. Question is: How do I reply to this text, maturely? In a way that doesn't come off as desperate/needy/insecure/overly emotional? I'm none of those things but I do want to let her know that I have other options (AND I DO!).
mammasita Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Say "alright maybe next time"....and let it go. Start playing a little hard to get. If she drops off then let it be - she's lost interest, if she steps it up - then you know. 3
carhill Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Question is: How do I reply to this text, maturely? In a way that doesn't come off as desperate/needy/insecure/overly emotional? As the reply was simply informational and not attempting to engage on any level, no reply is warranted. Silence sandwich. 3
Emilia Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Also don't say things like "I do want to let her know that I have other options (AND I DO!)." While it may not make you sound desperate, needy, insecure, or overly emotional, it certainly makes you sound like a dlck. I've just read through some of your other posts on this site man, they are funny as hell
d0nnivain Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 You reply back with some version of thanks for letting me know, have fun at the b-day party, maybe next time. Then you keep communicating about other things & you ask her to do something else with you. If she didn't get back to you with her schedule then I'd say fine, you can start analyzing subtext & trying to decipher hidden meanings but because she responded in a timely manner, it probably was really just a scheduling issue.
carhill Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 My read is that the principals here went out on a date, supposedly had a good time and that the lady has been 'keeping up' in the interim. The OP asked her out to an event this Thursday and she said she'd get back to him. She did, with the cold hard facts of her life, like he was essentially a business colleague. This type of response, given that she's spent substantial personal time with him on a date, indicates lack of interest. Note there was no 'keeping up', no 'but I'm free Friday', no 'let's go xxx on xxx', just ingredients for a birthday cake. Diagnosis? Dry hole. Prognosis? Unhealthy investment of valuable assets will lead to an unsatisfactory ROI. 1
Author omarthedude Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 UPDATE: I texted her a few minutes ago saying, "Cool! Thanks for letting me know. And have lots of fun at the party!" I didn't expect a reply but 10 mins later she goes "How are you?" And LOL Skuds, I will say nothing of the sort!
Phantom888 Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 A mature response to rejection is usually short and direct: "Thank you". That's it. We all have been rejected, and it's okay. Since there was little emotional investment to begin with, just be polite.
PogoStick Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 Respond politely, then post pictures on facebook of the girl you do end up with that night. 1
scorpiogirl Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 I would say just don't keep up communication with her. You asked her, she said she can't. She knows you're interested so let her contact you if she wants to meet up again. If she doesn't then you haven't invested anymore time in texting ping-pong.
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