Saxonhook Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Well it's finally happened after 9 months of not knowing my partner has said she has had enough and feels as though we will never be happy. I am devastated as a little over 9 months ago we were planning a wedding and now it's over. I have tried everything for the bad 9 months to work things out but it just seemed that I was the only one trying. All she was doing was ignoring what we could've had and spending all her spare time on social media sites. Now I don't believe she has cheated but I'm also not sure as there are a lot of new male friend commenting on her page. The biggest issue I have is my 2 sons who I love with all my heart and would do anything not to see them hurting, I will see them a lot as my ex is amicable about that but I know it will still effect them. I'm in a bad way and don't telly know what to do I just feel totally empty inside and insure on how I'm going to cope and move on now my life been turned upside down, the only good thing is now I'm not left dangling on the end of a line anymore
shamefullyjaded Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 I understand exactly what you are feeling and wish I could give you some word of encouragement but I can't. I have none. I am in the same spot as you but have sought counseling. This is just a suggestion but do you think she got emotionally involved with someone else and that is why she left? Here is why..... My Boyfriend of 8 years just decided one day that we were through and that I was the lowest form of scum on the earth. Let me give you a quick overview: We started dating. He had insecurity issues with my previous relationships. We fought on and off but we got through it. after the first year I got into a life threatening car accident and almost didn't make it. He stood by my side. Had complications from a blood clot...due from the accident, almost died, he stayed by my side. Our relationship got increasingly stronger after that. We always had major family issues but worked through them and even went to counseling to help communicate. fast forward several years later...We get pregnant and have a daughter. (BTW, he has another daughter from a previous relationship that we saw on weekends). Our relationship gets strained because of the ongoing family issues. I stop seeing my family but still talk to them on the phone. September 2012 my boyfriends father dies suddenly. Our relationship is on the rocks. We mend and go back to counseling. Our relationship gets much better. Most people in our lives would have guessed we would be together for ever that is how good our relationship was and how strong our love was. Was it work at times, yes. Rewind 2 months prior to this... towards the end of September he grows distant. I figure he is having trouble coping with fathers death anniversary so I give him space but reassure him that I'm here to talk if he needs to. The distance grows. We go to counseling and have a mild discussion. He blows up and ends the relationship. I was dumbfounded as to why he would just end it after 8 years when we have worked so hard to be together.... so I checked his email and phone records to find out that a few days after he blew up he started texting some girl on the internet. I even found inappropriate photos of her in his email. Knowing how paranoid my boyfriend is, I know he wouldn't give out his personal information to just anyone. He had to be talking with her for sometime before hand. Since then he has been treating me like some piece of useless trash. I am devastated because he was my everything and I even pushed my family away to make our life easier. He has told me how ne never ever really loved me and that he was with me simply because he didn't want to be alone. Now, he only wants to talk when he wants to see or talk to his daughter...which is sparingly. I wish is could give you helpful ways to cope, but it is a struggle for me everyday, primarily because we have a child together. I am still very much in live with him but I also hold a lot of anger for the way he and his mother have decided to treat me these last few weeks. I just take one day at a time.
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