EC Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Hey guys an Update.... So he picks me up on Friday and everything was awkward between us. I didn't know if to hold his hand while driving like always or kiss him hello. It was weird. So he's like we are going out to eat something. I said what I thought we were going to the bank to handle my account situation and thats it? He said no I tricked you we are going to dinner. So he takes me to dinner and we talked and he told me he was sorry about the way he's been acting that its not my fault that we both really have a lot of things going on and we are both stressed but that he needs me to go through it all and that without me hes nothing. That I am his strength. I told him I was sick of him treating me like a little kid sometimes and making me think Im not smart enough or good enough. And that hes not perfect himself ( he thinks he is) and that god made no one perfect and Im not perfect so if he wants the perfect girl then hes with the wrong one. I told him I need attention and That when we go through little bumps he can't just say I need a break and run away from it. He said he finally understood that and that he truly loved me and that he was sorry for this week of hell. So I cried and agreed and we were back together. Then sat I got my hair done and put on my dress and got ready to go to the Christmas party. I looked hot!! He came to pick me up and brought flowers. As soon as he saw me he almost died. He couldn't believe how beautiful I looked and I was loving it. We got to my Christmas party and finally it was my time to shine. Because I was always around him and his people and he has never seen me interact with my friends and co workers. So I was going up to everyone and introducing HIM for a change and talking up a storm. I danced all night and we had a great time. He kept trying to get me to leave early so that we could go "play" lmao. Finally still tipsy from the party we made it home and we had hot chocolate together and then made love until 7:00 in the morning. !!! It was awesome. Then Sunday morning we finished our Christmas shopping together and I had a blast. We split all the gifts 50/50 so it was easier on our pockets. I had fun shopping for his mom and dad and vice versa. Even though my mother hates him right now. But I hope she gets over it before Christmas day. So Yay I am happy again!!! Everything is going great. My last day at this job is Wednesday and I move into my apartment on Thursday and start my new job on Thursday too which I already love my new job because I work half a day my first day because of the holidays and they are paying me for the whole day!!!!!!! But I will have to be leaving LS. This is my last week here until Wednesday. I cannot use the computer at all at my new job and I dont have my own PC at home (YET) because the one I have I have to leave for my mother and brother. So Im am definitely going to have LS withdrawals.
moimeme Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Good to hear it's all working out , EC. Remember there's libraries and internet cafes so your withdrawal may not have to last too long. And you can get a basic computer for relatively cheap these days. Meantime, good luck and happy holiday!
savethedrama4allama Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 EC, I'm glad you're happy. I wish you all the best, and I'm going to miss you a lot! Happy holidays and write as soon as you can! llama.
hugznkisses21 Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 im going through what u went through im soo confussed and feel left out I dont mean to rape your thread...im sooo happy for you My bf says he is very stressed but he still hugs and kisses ad stuff just no real sexual contact too much on his mind im confussed
Author EC Posted December 20, 2004 Author Posted December 20, 2004 Thats what happened with us..so I just told him what was on my mind and gave him his space. He missed me and when he needed me I was still there for him and he saw that. Then he came back. He was stressed and I was stressed so we were annoying the hell out of eachother. I gave him a little space and now that the stress is down a bit we spoke and everything is fine. Girl I wasn't getting any sexual contact either but we still hugged and kissed. All I can say is leave him his space. Let him relax for a little while and then he'll come back. When they are stressed they need a little time by themselves to sort thing out. If you start hounding them then you become another stress factor in his life and he will run away to not deal with any more stress.
Merin Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Well I'll miss you girl;) Hopefully you will be able to get a PC and still come around here... Congrats on the new place! AND I wish you the best with your BF:)
hugznkisses21 Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Yes thanks for the encouragement EC. I know I have to give it time so he can sort...see im like your bf i keep saying lets take a break and he keeps sayng NOOOOOO...but it is hard for m cause i LOOOVE affection. But he keeps saying i love u and that has not changed i just have sooo much going on im sorry things will get better when the stress has died down. I will just like u said give him space.....i know he isnt cheated or thinking of breaking up cause i tried to break up with him so he can decide what he wants and he said no we will get through this together i love you....he isnt cheating cause i know he would not do that to me he cares for me too much and we do know what eachof u s have is specail Space is good i know he still cares and loves me...he calls me at work to say hi i love you, and stuff.....so if he did he wouldnt waste his time...its just hard to get thorugh these stressful time...how do u cope! relationships can be tough eh!
zara Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Check back from time to time - just a quickie in an internet cafe to say hi, okay?! Glad things are working out for you! Happy holidays!
Author EC Posted December 20, 2004 Author Posted December 20, 2004 Thanks so much guys....I can't even sneak in at my new job..lol they have ACCESS DENIED..lol But I will try to pop in. Hugz..How do I cope you ask...Its so hard and you never know what to expect but this is how I cope. I sit down...I think of everything I have been through, and everything I have learned so far. I take a look around and see what else makes me happy besides him and I have a lot of things. I think of all our goodtimes and smile and then I think to myself if it doesn't work out, I have learned a lot, and its probably time to let go and learn from someone else or maybe he needs to move on and learn from someone else. Maybe his purpose in my life is up or my purpose in his is up... I mean of course were it to end I would be devastated but I would think the above and it would help me cope and thats I have been coping
hugznkisses21 Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 EC I started my own thread so i didnt take over yours....
Naive Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Hey EC, Well I'm glad to see that things are working out with your man. I hope they continue this way. I'm sorry to hear that you are leaving LS but if it's to better yourself then we cannot make you stay. Try to pop in every once in a while. Where are you going to work now?
Naive Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Tiki you have to start another thread telling us all the gossip!!!!! That is if you haven't already!
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