Landtheater Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 First timer here, my head been a mess on other times with this same topic, but I feel maybe it will help me hearing some advice this time So there's this girl, there's quite a gap in age (She's 20 I'm 29, I know I should have understood how all of this love games work but they beat me ). Anyway, I'm not worried about the gap since she doesn't seem too childish to me and I'm definitely not the most mature man in earth. I've know her for 2 months we are both studying the same. I liked her attractive since the first time, although at the start I admit I was cautious because of our age difference. I have a good friend in class which is 22 years old, he's quite attractive (not that I'm not, at least not an ugly caveman) and she (...and quite obviously) developed a crush on him almost from day 1. We quickly made ourselves friends with this girl, the three of us (There's another guy with 31 years old, married, and out of this game on his own interest evidently) we started going to run together, going to drink something as buddies together, etc... She always run with him side to side, she always wanted to go were he went, she would hold him, touch him, look for conversations, etc... Sometimes kind of felt like a subtle stalking. I being the idiot that I am, and seeing she has not interest for me other than being the friend of they guy she likes, step aside and let them try to build, or not, a relationship. All this time I'm just a guy which makes her laugh a lot, from time to time walked from class to home together (30 minute walks) and held nice conversations, I wait the bus with her (She asks me to), etc... I'm Mr. Nice guy and a gentleman (which doesn't seem to work anytime... but it's just the way I am...I guess...). I like her, but I, and everyone in class, sees clearly what she wants. In the end my friend never was interested in her but on another girl in class which he's is working on diligently to try to date. So... After a month and a half, or for 1 - 1,5 weeks until today there starts to be some changes... We start to make a lot of eye contact, a lot of "accidental" touches, others not so accidental like sitting on my lap or resting over my back with her "bouncy attributes" (yes I know they are there and sometimes is inevitable, but some of these were quite avoidable), she still laughs hard with me (no changes here), when I say I have an appointment asks me WHO I'm going with... And she gradually loses interest on the other guy... I'm OK with these changes but the thing is last day she seemed to be hinting at me that I'm taking to long to take my chance... and... I'm not oblivious to all of her signs... if they are true... but not a week or 1,5 weeks ago she was all over my friend like a child over his Christmas presents... so I'm f***** confused Ah! It also doesn't help that I like to take things slowly... Some advice? I know it's not easy not seeing/feeling all of the subtleties, but maybe you can see a glaring hint in this general view of the events Thank you.
Philosoraptor Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Seems like she's doing everything she can to let you know she's interested. Ask her out on a real date already.
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