bubble_pink Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 After five years of no contact and sticking to my word that would never let any form of contact reach me I answered my phone to my ex who called from a barr number. I answered the call as I thought it would be a insurance company about the recent car accident. I was then told that I was never loved and they was sorry for the way I was treated during the relationship, that I was just something to do until they found what they wanted, that I was replaced for new friends and I was the gf they treated badly. I'm hurt by what was said and the change in what I once thought about this person after many years. I was used, I honestly thought that I was cared about before the relationship fizzled out. Why would you do such a thing to someone it is a very cruel thing to do out of the blue. I never said a word and just listened then put the phone down. But I feel broken again, because all the memories I had of being happy with the person after moving on now mean nothing they was all false. Any advice
Ordinaryday Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 this is why I never answer numbers I dont recognise. I let it go to voicemail and if it is someone I want to speak to I return the call, if not I ignore it. some people on here suggested changing your mobile phone number so that they your ex cant contact you, even if they wanted to.
faithfully Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Sorry to be blunt or nasty or sound bitter but am not!! What a bastard!!! Noo need for that at all, he obviously aint changed. Yeahh change ur number
Mz_sassy_77 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 OMG. It's stories like these i hate to hear. I know that when I broke up with my ex after three years the first thing he did was get into contact with his EX's of over three years ago. I think this is a guy thing because I have never done that. Has one of his RS recently ended - probably. And what a jerk to say those things. My ex is like a different person. Everyone says this is the real him and he's been putting it on for the last 3 years. How crazy is that? I guess no one really knows anyone else. One way to look at it is that after all that time he's still thinking about you which I guess is flattering in a way. Obviously the comments werent but. And he is making it sound like you hurt him. My EX is the same. He BU with me but walks around like I did something to him. Sometimes I think its cos he wanted me to beg and plead for him to stay and when I didn't it hurt him.
TaraMaiden Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 He seems to have contacted you to be open, honest and to apologise. Do you happen to know if he drank a lot? I only ask, because those on an AA programme are encouraged to 'right previous wrongs'. In doing so, he actually created a 'clusterphukk' without necessarily being aware of it... Just seeking more clarification, if there is any to be had..... 1
Author bubble_pink Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 I know people have ways of dealing with things in strange ways. It would be useless to change my number as my ex will find a way, one of his greatest achievements was to contact the ex that hit me in a past relationship, unlucky for the ex of five years got a mouthful for bringing up the past of them and told where to go. They did it to hurt me I know that, but if I fight to run away from it all the ding bat gets what they want, and that's them on my mind and fear of the next instalment. The fool screwed up and is paying for it, otherwise why the constant stream of crap. I'm now angry which is good and I have full closure, I left and held my head high for many years which was hard and as much as it upsets me I will not let it stop me from being happy in other areas of my life. I'm not upset over the relationship i'm angry for the lies and the fact my nature to help people was taken for granted. Where my ex wants me to be full of vengeance to justify the **** they did is not going to happen. Because if my ex was happy else where my ex would not do this crap. I have decided to re join the gym and take out the hurt of it all there with my old school friend who is a weight lifter. The vindictiveness is astonishing. Thank you all for your advice. It's never nice being made a fool of.
Author bubble_pink Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 He seems to have contacted you to be open, honest and to apologise. Do you happen to know if he drank a lot? I only ask, because those on an AA programme are encouraged to 'right previous wrongs'. In doing so, he actually created a 'clusterphukk' without necessarily being aware of it... Just seeking more clarification, if there is any to be had..... Not at all my ex left after finding greener grass i was a do for now by all accounts,his relationships after failed and in his own words his had more relationships than hot dinners, and that his fed up and happy with some one else, Which is frankly none of my business. It's disrespectful to the person he is with to do such a thing and contact an ex to abuse them for self justification. I'm sure i'm not the only one getting this treatment. It's not my place to make him feel better for being vindictive and regretting it, he needs to do that himself and learn from it.
Fufu Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Wow you could actually listened throughout then hung the call. I would just hung the phone immediately. Ignore him.. not worth you pain going through the memories.
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Hahaha what a sad loser! He must have such a ****ty life to do that. That isn't what someone who is happy does. I bet you he was having a really really ****ty day, maybe he even got dumped! Don't let this ******* make you feel bad he's just taken something out on you. What is the point in doing that after five years, normal people don't do this. Mental issues.
Chi townD Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Sorry, I would have told them to f*ck off and hung up the phone. As soon as the conversation took that turn, there was no reason to hang on the line and endure that kind of abuse.
forgetmenot75 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 What a jerk. you're lucky to be out of that relationship.
flight E Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Watever he said is of no consequence. The fact that after 5 years he calls you shows he is truly not over you. U should be happy. He is such a sour loser
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