BrianSFV Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Hi, I am single and have a girlfriend. I have a couple friends that now are married with children. Since I very rarely get to see them anymore, although we're all still very good friends, i suggested that we start in 2005, an annual trip. We used to go to Vegas 3-4 times a year, and i realize that will never happen again, and i don't expect anything remotely close to that at this point. Every one of us is in a relationship and it would just be a trip to hang out and have fun away from it all for 1 weekend. Friday night after work to Sunday afternoon. 1 of them has a wife that does not trust him even though i've known him for more than half his life and would never cheat on someone even if Pam Anderson begged him for sex. His wife just has her own issues because people in her family have done dirty deeds like this in the past. The other 1 says he works a lot and is afraid he'll miss his family too much if he's away that long. 1 weekend in 2005 is all i'm asking! They say when I'm married and have children I'll understand, however my girlfriend thinks it's a great idea and I can honestly say that if we were to get married and have children she would not only allow and approve such a thing, she'd encourage a trip once a year for 1 weekend with my best friends. Am I wrong in being annoyed as can be with my friends for not wanting to plan an event like this? 1 weekend of their choosing in 2005! My other 4 friends (1 of which lives in another state and another that just recently had his 2nd child) are game if there is a plan and enough notice. That seems reasonable to me, what about you? Suggestions???
Thinkalot Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 I think it's a great idea, and something people, even those married and with kids, should make time for. My fiance goes away on a surf weekend with his mates about once a year. The others are all married...and two of them are now expecting a child, which could put the next trip on hold for a while. I think if you were suggesting something every few months, then maybe that would be a bit much...but once a year? sounds like a great way for you to maintain a friendship, unwind, and maintain your own sense of self. Maybe the female partners could have a girls trip some other weekend.
quankanne Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 maybe you can plan the initial reunion as a couples/family thing so all parties involved get accustomed to the idea of being together. That might spin off into an all-husbands/all wives set up, and no one feels left out. And that'll give them the opportunity to socialize -- I know that the last time all my friends were together at the same time was at my mom's funeral last year, and while it was very comforting, it was also hard, because it was under sad circumstances. so do something fun and inclusive, then take it from there!
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