sun1972 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 So today is NC day 1 We talked a little last night (split two days ago) it was civil and we swapped 5 or 6 emails, but she eventually stopped replying although she was active on facebook. So today ill remove her from fb and start NC, its difficult because she has hospital tests friday and i desperately want to know the results (she had agreed to tell me them and im worried if i remove her from fb she will not tell me the results). I know people say shes not in your life, it doesnt matter what her health is etc..but i still care. Do people tell their ex that they are going into NC first? or do they just remove everything without a word? I think she has already moved on, in fact the way she is chatting happily on fb etc suggests she must have been emotionally removed before we even split up. I ended it, but ..lets just say she embraced it As far as the future is concerned i know i need to work on myself, and assume we will never meet again, but-- although people say friendship never works i DO want one day to be friends... im friends with 2 ex's and we swap sporadic emails or txts and it doesnt hurt at all. So, let her know i am going into NC out of politeness? Sorry for all the rambling, i cannot seem to get my head straight right now. Thanks
Fufu Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Just ignore her. don't have to tell her you are going NC. It doesn't serve any purpose by letting her know.
Author sun1972 Posted November 13, 2013 Author Posted November 13, 2013 (edited) well she mailed me last night to ask why id taken her off facebook..and i probably should not have replied but i did and we talked most of the night again It looks like she is struggling every bit as much as me...wants me back etc The initial issues (distance, allergies etc) are still there... but neither of us have actually done anything wrong.. it seems wrong to ignore someone who hasnt done anything wrong?. I should say, even the last day together we were still as loving as ever. I guess it helps us BOTH not just me, for me to disappear until we r both healed? Edited November 13, 2013 by sun1972
theonlyjuan Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 Just go NC, I didn't tell my ex about it. Keep busy and see friends and family. Days turn into weeks, weeks into months. Time flies by, you will have your weak days but just stay strong. Don't buy into FB bull****, everyone makes out their life is great on that after a breakup. Concentrate on yourself I lost count of my NC after 40 days, I don't think about it anymore. It does get a lot easier just be patient. My ex feels like a stranger now. I saw her the other day and it felt like I hardly knew her before, weird huh?
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