Sivok Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 Awesome news! One thing I noticed about your post is how you're analyzing the evening from your perspective and putting alot of the weight on yourself. From a guy's perspective, I personally may have been self conscious about my performance - if you moved to the couch then I might feel like you felt it sucked and was uncomfortable sleeping next to me after. He was probably just as critical about that night as you haha. Anyway, glad things worked out! Enjoy your next date with him 1
Author blahblahblacksheep Posted November 13, 2013 Author Posted November 13, 2013 Sivok, you're right. I do these weird standoffish things like all the time in all areas of my life and later I'm like "damn I probably shouldn't have acted like such a weirdo." haha. So I'll try and think about his perspective in the future. Thanks!
PinkInTheLimo Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 Read your story again and ask yourself the question: if you were a serious guy who wanted to meet a girl for a real relationship, would you be attracted to a girl who acts like you do? Stop focusing on whether you will hear from him again and deal with your first problem: your alcohol consumption. Your reaction makes no sense. I am not judging her, I am just telling her she is a mess. She was honest and I am honest as well. Whatever relationship problem you have, it won't get better if you have an alcohol problem. 1
Lansing Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 I think you definitely may have given off the "I am not interested" vibe in the morning based on what you said. Was hanging out with this one girl that I liked and she turned bitchy all the sudden. Gave me a totally different perspective on things and made me re-evaluate my interest. She could have just been having a bad day but I felt like it was more a reaction to being around me.... Guys can be "sensitive" too Good luck on your next date
d0nnivain Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 So anyways, I figured nothing ventured, nothing gained, and, I waited til this evening and texted him a simple "hey did you still want to get together this week?" and he responded within a few minutes with an enthusiastic "yeah! i'm free tomorrow or thursday. how about you?" and he suggested we go bowling in a town neither one of us live in so that will make going back to eachother's places even more difficult. Since i'll be driving that will keep me from drinking too much. I don't know how things will play out from here - if we'll both continue to be interested in getting to know one another but for now I'm happy that we have an actual date planned and this hasn't moved to a hook up. Thanks for all the replies, even the overly critical ones! ;-) I'm glad you called him & that you are going on a date. While you did move a bit fast, as long as you own the behavior -- it happend & was your choice (you didn't get forced) -- I think you will be fine. Confidence is sexy & this guy should be flattered that you like him & aren't afraid to show it because you called him. Don't play coy at this point & say stupid things like I think we should slow down. You don't have to give him your heart or pledge undying love to each other but don't go backwards either. Have fun.
krista28 Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 I am surprised hegot back to you but that is a good thing! my guy wont even talk to me because my friend threatened him but that's neither here nor there. one thing you should be careful of is that he isn't justusing you for sex. if guys get it too easy sometimes they keep dipping in for more and expecting it. try to hold out for awhile this time..
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