KittyKitty4 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 My fiance and I were together for 3 years.. for a while things got very rocky and he left for a while. He wanted to come back and treat me right he said.. so he did. For the last few weeks things have been great, back to the way they were, maybe better... In fact, 2 nights ago he was texting me from work telling me he has never been happier and loves me so much..he planned a romantic date night and it was great! then all of a sudden yesterday (the next day after the date) he wasnt answering my calls or texts... he came home and grabbed his stuff (that was mostly still packed from when he left last time) told me he didnt love me and he left. He said he has been miserable for a while and he left me and told me he doesnt love me and blocked my phone calls, texts, social media, everything ... I am in complete shock.. 24 hours after saying this is the happiest he has ever been and having an amazing date.. and weeks of perfection he just walked out. I dont get why he even came back in the 1st place and healed my broken heart just to break it again? I dont know what is going on.. it was just so sudden and I have no idea why it happened.
Tarleton82 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 My heart truly goes out to you, gal. But this is a lesson in life, albeit one of the most painful you will ever go through. People may disagree on here with me, and that's fine, but the reality is most people are one or the other, at least on the average. That is, they either a dumper or a dumpee type personality. People like yourself and myself, we are picky. We don't jump into relationships with just anyone, and when we pick them, we intend to STAY THE COURSE FOREVER. Well, as hard as it is for you to understand this, this is what they do. We can't understand it and we will never understand it. This is what they do. When my ex said she was "unsure about us" she suggested counseling. After the first session I get a text (by the way this was this past summer) that reads, "hey, baby, I'm really actually really hopeful about this counseling, he seems really cool and I think he will help us with our problems." After that, I didn't hear from her for days and she didn't text or call me, and when she did, she stopped saying "I love you." It was all downhill from there, and mine was REEEEEALLLY NASTY, an absolute WITCH, and she was NEVER EVER like that for the five years we were together. I hate to tell you this but you might get an answer or answers from him, but you most likely won't. I'm so sorry, friend, but this is how it is. This is what they do. They're weak and cowardly and I would be willing to bet he, like my ex is someone who doesn't really finish a lot in life what they started, so the same it is with them in relationships. It is weakness, there is nothing wrong with you. Please be safe and be good to yourself. You deserve FAR better. 2
lovelylilly Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Is it possible that something scared him off? Or maybe he met someone else? It's weird that he would just leave out of the blue like that, but I have had it happen to me . It's sucks, and it's going to take a long time to get over, but the best advice I can give you is to leave him a lone and don't try to ask him why. He might not even know himself. Please don't contact him, at least for the next month or so. I really regret calling my current ex (he never returned my call). It's the worse feeling in the world, trust me.
Grumpybutfun Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Kitty: I am sure you are in shock. This makes little sense. Some things to consider is that he was doing hysterical bonding with you, but the issues were still too much for him to overcome. Or, he has someone on the side and decided that he would rather try things with them. This is unfortunate as 3 years is a long time to devote to someone. Yet, when the other person breaks it off, believe them. They may come back, but it rarely lasts for very long if the problems aren't resolved or if they are thinking of, or seeing someone else. It is time to take care of you now. Gather all of your support around you and start planning for a future without him. No matter what he does now, he has broken trust by breaking up/reconciling and then leaving with NC. You are going to be okay. You can make it through this. I know you have lots of questions, but just be prepared that you may not get the answers you need because he might be acting in a shameful manner and not be able to tell you anything due to shame and guilt. Time for you to move forward with your life. Good Luck, Grumps
Author KittyKitty4 Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 Im pretty sure there is no one else-- we live together, have one car, I know his schedule and I drop him off and pick him up everyday from work. We also share a phone bill, I looked at it and there are no strange contacts on there... I really dont know what happened at all.. I just cant understand how you go from pure bliss to saying you dont love someone within 24 hours... I am so hurt. I love him with all my heart.. he left me here in our place with all the bills... he also hasnt paid his share of rent in 4 months or anything else, he never has money.. i think something very serious is going on with him.. but meanwhile he just decided he wants to call everything off and he doesnt love me ... he literally blocked me from contacting him and wrote me an e-mail telling me to move on, that he doesnt love me, he is unhappy and wants nothing to do with me .
Author KittyKitty4 Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 Im pretty sure there is no one else-- we live together, have one car, I know his schedule and I drop him off and pick him up everyday from work. We also share a phone bill, I looked at it and there are no strange contacts on there... I really dont know what happened at all.. I just cant understand how you go from pure bliss to saying you dont love someone within 24 hours... I am so hurt. I love him with all my heart.. he left me here in our place with all the bills... he also hasnt paid his share of rent in 4 months or anything else, he never has money.. i think something very serious is going on with him.. but meanwhile he just decided he wants to call everything off and he doesnt love me ... he literally blocked me from contacting him and wrote me an e-mail telling me to move on, that he doesnt love me, he is unhappy and wants nothing to do with me
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