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We just had our third date. What now?


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So I've been dating this girl for 2 weeks now, I'm 19 and she's 18, nice, college student, active, pretty. So to back-track to the last 2 dates, for our first date we had coffee, nothing special, we talked but it was pretty quiet. After the date, I honestly thought i'd never hear from here again. So then I thought i'd give her a text and she if she'd like to go out again for the hell of it. (I didn't feel comfortable calling with how the first date went, so i text) so surprisingly she agrees, and we get dinner. Except this time, it went very well, we sit and chat straight for 4 hours. I thought i got out of the shy/quiet barrier. a few days later i call her and ask if she'd like to go skiing, and she said yes, but it wasn't open till Friday so we went agreed to a walk till then. Next week (today), we go for that walk. I thought it be nice and simple and so this time were not staring at each other the whole time. It wasn't too bad.. it was quiet there-and-then, but alright, walked for an hour. At this point, we haven't kissed, hugged, held hands or anything.

 

Now we are going to go cross-country skiing on Friday, and to get to my questions..

 

-Should I be 'putting' myself more towards getting a relationship with her? I feel i'm not flirting enough with her, if at all.

 

-Should I try calling her more instead of texting? How often should I call her?

 

-Would it be too much, If i tried holding her hand maybe?

 

-Would seeing if she'd like to see a movie or something afterwards be a good idea?

 

Thanks for reading this, as you can see I don't date much.. especially just getting off working insane hours. I'd appreciate all the advice/experiences you can share with me.

 

Thanks!

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calls v texts depends on the person. I hate texts & prefer calls. Texts are OK but don't try to have long conversations through text & don't talk about feelings.

 

Yes, you should try to hold her hand. You may even want to try for a kiss. I would have given you the green light to do both on the 1st date.

 

skiing is a long date; I'd save the movie for the next outing.

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I think youre in the perfect spot to hold her hand now, since what youre doing is physical.

 

Sounds like everything is going great, just hold her hand and touch her more a little at a time

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