turnerik Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 I've posted before, but like everything, things change. Details: I'm 20, she's 35. She's in the middle of a divorce with 3 kids We are in the same college class. I'm finishing college, she's just starting. Story: last week this woman came over to my apartment to study for a test. I'm not bragging, but I'm really good in the class and she needed help. We sit by each other every week, and are constantly laughing. She hits me, then when I go owe she rubs my arm. She wants me to take her to my cabin. She is always tells me how great I am. Anyway, she comes overs and we are having a great time, and she starts telling me about her soon to be ex husband and how much of an ass he is. At the end of the night she hugs me and asks me to walk her to her car, which I was already going to do. We meet up before school and we just keep talking. After class we keep texting until about 130 in the morn, and I said if she gets a good grade she has to come over and get drunk with me. She was really excited to do that. Then I asked her to go trap shooting with me, and she said of course, so she picked Sunday at 11, well she didn't get there until 1230, but she had family stuff to do, so I wasn't that bothered. ( in all honestly if it wasn't this woman, I would have just left, but she is different) we got done shooting trap ( that's shooting orange flying discs with a shotgun for those of you who don't know), and she tells me more personal stuff about her husband, how he used to beat her physically and emotionally. Then today she texted me about her shoulder hurting and being bruised from shooting, but she still had a great time and wants to go again. I am wondering how to continue with this woman, and instead of just hanging out, maybe start dating? What I know: yes she is 15 my senior. She looks gorgeous, and is an amazing person. It's not just a physical attraction, she stimulates me mentally. I know I am also attracted to that woman in distress part of her. We are both going to school to be police officers, so that's where that part comes in. Yes she has 3 kids and I'm basically broke, but it doesn't bother me. I know it's a big responsibility, but I am going to have a great job within a year because of the references. Any advice on how to continue would be great, and please don't tell me not to, because this woman is amazing.
superb Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 I've posted before, but like everything, things change. Details: I'm 20, she's 35. She's in the middle of a divorce with 3 kids We are in the same college class. I'm finishing college, she's just starting. Story: last week this woman came over to my apartment to study for a test. I'm not bragging, but I'm really good in the class and she needed help. We sit by each other every week, and are constantly laughing. She hits me, then when I go owe she rubs my arm. She wants me to take her to my cabin. She is always tells me how great I am. Anyway, she comes overs and we are having a great time, and she starts telling me about her soon to be ex husband and how much of an ass he is. At the end of the night she hugs me and asks me to walk her to her car, which I was already going to do. We meet up before school and we just keep talking. After class we keep texting until about 130 in the morn, and I said if she gets a good grade she has to come over and get drunk with me. She was really excited to do that. Then I asked her to go trap shooting with me, and she said of course, so she picked Sunday at 11, well she didn't get there until 1230, but she had family stuff to do, so I wasn't that bothered. ( in all honestly if it wasn't this woman, I would have just left, but she is different) we got done shooting trap ( that's shooting orange flying discs with a shotgun for those of you who don't know), and she tells me more personal stuff about her husband, how he used to beat her physically and emotionally. Then today she texted me about her shoulder hurting and being bruised from shooting, but she still had a great time and wants to go again. I am wondering how to continue with this woman, and instead of just hanging out, maybe start dating? What I know: yes she is 15 my senior. She looks gorgeous, and is an amazing person. It's not just a physical attraction, she stimulates me mentally. I know I am also attracted to that woman in distress part of her. We are both going to school to be police officers, so that's where that part comes in. Yes she has 3 kids and I'm basically broke, but it doesn't bother me. I know it's a big responsibility, but I am going to have a great job within a year because of the references. Any advice on how to continue would be great, and please don't tell me not to, because this woman is amazing. Tell HER how you feel....that you like her and want to date her good luck!
Uwaae Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 You are already dating her. You dont need to verbalize anything, you dont need to make anything official, you dont need to "Date" her. The only thing I think you may want to do is take things a little more physical, and this is easy. Since she already touch you and hits you, means she already likes you. So you can always touch her hand longer if youre shaking it. Touch her lower back when she's going somewhere. If you want to get more explicit, you could rub her thigh a little bit
todreaminblue Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 true...dating doesn't really have to verbalized seems you already are........talk to her...tell her how you feel go from there...it is a big age gap ....could be a concern later on if you were to be in a relationship i think you need to put that out there if you do end up serious...she probably will anyway so be prepared with verbalizing how you feel about kids and such............good luck....deb
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