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If he was worried about pregnancy, why bother initiating sex in the first place, that just makes him a tease.

 

If you are worried about getting sick, why bother breathing in the first place.

 

 

That just makes you a tease.

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If you are worried about getting sick, why bother breathing in the first place.

 

 

That just makes you a tease.

 

That doesn't even make sense. It's not like he went through with the sex and worried after, he started something he wasn't prepared to finish.

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He's very attractive but doesn't get with many women... he breaks up with girls after 1 or 2 dates... he couldn't go through with sex with you. At the risk of sounding like That Person, he does like girls doesn't he?

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He's very attractive but doesn't get with many women... he breaks up with girls after 1 or 2 dates... he couldn't go through with sex with you. At the risk of sounding like That Person, he does like girls doesn't he?

 

I have wondered this myself a few times.... his dress sense also happens to be quite "metrosexual" and he is quite sensitive about how "manly" he is.

He was with a girl for 6 years though.

 

He contacted me again yesterday morning and made small talk but didn't say anything that would indicate a change of mind.

I will probably delete him from FB sometime soon.

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Yeah I know. But since you flew off the handle and broke up with him, you need to try to show him that you're not like that, over time, in order to win him back. Unless you're still going to be like that, and in that case you need a really patient or desperate guy.

 

OK, we chatted a bit the other day and he said that things were too tense between us to date again.

Yesterday I decided to initiate a casual conversation, we chatted for a couple of hours, just like we always did, teasing each other etc.

We're still not 100% back to normal though. Will see if he contacts again but I am still very down about the whole thing. If I do find myself completely friendzoned I will have to cut contact as it would be too painful.

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He messaged me last night saying he misses talking to me ()we used to chat for hours every day) and asked, since we are still friends on FB, does this mean we can be friends, but I declined. When he told me earlier this week that he had decided he didn't want to date me anymore, I told him that this is the end, I'm not into "let's stay friends", and I reminded him last night that he put an end to things fully aware of this.

 

He has dated several women this year (with most he put an end to it after 1 or 2 dates) and is still friends with a couple of them but I find "friends" too painful.

I think I will give him another few days

 

Another few days...to do what, exactly?

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Another few days...to do what, exactly?

 

Change his mind, I hope...

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Yesterday I decided to initiate a casual conversation, we chatted for a couple of hours, just like we always did, teasing each other etc.

We're still not 100% back to normal though. Will see if he contacts again but I am still very down about the whole thing. If I do find myself completely friendzoned I will have to cut contact as it would be too painful.

 

If you really want him back, don't be so rushed. I wouldn't think you would be 100% back to normal at this point.

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If you really want him back, don't be so rushed. I wouldn't think you would be 100% back to normal at this point.

 

Not 100%, no. I am trying to take your advice and show him that I am a rational human being most of the time. Most of the hurt has subsided now, on both sides.

It's a weird situation for me. I've never done the whole "dating" thing before. Previous relationships were always with guys I was already friends with- we would usually kiss and then start hanging out. Mike is the first guy that started off as a complete stranger. This whole structured "going on dates" thing is alien to me. I also have never been with someone as sensitive as him before. I have found out the hard way that what appeared to be confidence was all just a front.

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Typical confused woman. If this guy is this attractive he should be used to this by now!

I just had one flip one me after 2 dates she starts talking about being bf n gf

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