JR91 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 (edited) I posted a while back about my ex sleeping with my friend. Since then i broke all contact with her. Now I am starting to regret what I did. I feel like I was selfish I believe she was a victim too. She needed someone for support over what had happened and I cut her off cold turkey without any warning even after telling her id be there for her. I feel like a ****ty person I should have been there for her. Now its eating away at me, I messaged her saying I still care about her and that I did what I did because i felt it would only hurt me more to stay by her side. She told me what I did was selfish and that i really let her down. That i just threw her away and left her alone in a time of need. Now im feeling bad for what I did was I really selfish. Should I have stayed by her side. I wanted to be away to help my feelings for her go away but its not working. I told her I cut her off because I felt like it would hurt me more being by her side after what happened but I still wanted a friendship after all these feelings went away. She responded with "What makes you think you deserve my friendship". I feel like a bad person for just throwing her away. What should I do, What can I do? was I wrong to have done what I did? Edited November 12, 2013 by JR91
veggirl Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 I'm confused. She needed support getting through the fact that she slept with your best friend? She slept with YOUR best friend and...you feel you owe it to her to "be there" for her? Are you serious?? YOU were selfish? She slept with your best friend and YOU were selfish? Dude its called having a backbone and some self-respect. and then she has the balls to tell you that you don't deserve her. OMG. If you need to do anything other than NEVER SPEAK TO HER AGAIN then tell her to f*ck off! Beyond that, I got nothing. 7
Author JR91 Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 Thing is she was drunk and was feeling bad over what she had done too so I cant help but feel she must have been hurt over what happened herself. 1
Nubcake Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Thing is she was drunk and was feeling bad over what she had done too so I cant help but feel she must have been hurt over what happened herself. I have to echo veggirl, wtf dude... She cheated on you, doesnt matter if she was drunk or not that isn't a free pass. Ya she really regrets it yet is acting like the victim here when you were more than justified for dumping that trash. She regrets she got caught/you knowing about it is more like. I would advise not to mess with that manipulative bitch. 3
strive Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Tell her you can't be the one supporting her because what she did directly affect and hurt you. Don't be her doormat. 3
BOSSHOGG5 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 When u finally wake up and see the picture, u are going to say, "What Was I Thinking". U did right by leaving and not contacting her. Don't go back! She will never respect U. Look at what according to u she has said. "Really"? Don't be a fool like I was and try to take her back. It's over, it's over, it's over, and guess what??? There are so many women out here that are morally intact that it will blow your mind. U cry and say, "But I Don't Want Another Woman", I want her. I say get out there and let that special woman take all the doubt, frustration, and pain away. Ijs.
Sparta Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 I’m starting to see the big picture here there are no men left… Now know why women have know respect for men anymore after ready his post…!!!
maturityassets Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Really? No just no. She slept with your "friend" and you abandoned her? No she got what she deserved. You're your own man. No you didn't abandon her, she abandoned you! And that is what you hate that she left you and the guilt you feel is probably some kind of emptiness without her, whether it be in the form of anxiety, depression or something else
ForeverHopeful1 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 I posted a while back about my ex sleeping with my friend. Since then i broke all contact with her. Now I am starting to regret what I did. I feel like I was selfish I believe she was a victim too. She needed someone for support over what had happened and I cut her off cold turkey without any warning even after telling her id be there for her. I feel like a ****ty person I should have been there for her. Now its eating away at me, I messaged her saying I still care about her and that I did what I did because i felt it would only hurt me more to stay by her side. She told me what I did was selfish and that i really let her down. That i just threw her away and left her alone in a time of need. Now im feeling bad for what I did was I really selfish. Should I have stayed by her side. I wanted to be away to help my feelings for her go away but its not working. I told her I cut her off because I felt like it would hurt me more being by her side after what happened but I still wanted a friendship after all these feelings went away. She responded with "What makes you think you deserve my friendship". I feel like a bad person for just throwing her away. What should I do, What can I do? was I wrong to have done what I did? PARDON???????? She had sex with someone else and had the nerve to even wonder why you didn't speak to her?!?! Does she feel SELFISH for cheating on you when you needed her in your relationship to make things work, or did she forget she was part of a relationship with ONE other person? No, for the love of God, you are not mean, selfish, rotten or horrible for doing what you did. You, my fine man, are NORMAL. If my H cheated, I would never speak to him again. We don't have children to talk about and my lawyer would handle the rest. I don't have time for people who take advantage of me like that. AND that's my H who I have been with for 10 years. I would NOT be selfish to leave. I would be standing up for myself and doing what I believe is right for me. I will not tolerate being cheated on. It is a dealbreaker for me, he knows that, and I would not be selfish to leave him for it. He would be selfish to assume I would stay, or selfish to beg me to. If she didn't cheat, you would have been there for her. She was a douche bag for cheating on you with your "FRIEND," and then I bolded another classic douche bag line... "What makes you think you deserve my friendship?" Ummmmmmmm pardon me? You screwed my friend! She is not remorseful at all, and then blames you for not being there for her??? How "there for YOU" was she when she was sleeping with your friend??? Some people's children, I tell ya!!!! Please don't speak to this girl. Ever. For any reason. I am appalled by some females. No wonder men are bonkers! They date whackadoos like this one. LOL. 2
Sugarkane Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 Please don't ever contact this manipulative cheater again. There are so much more nicer girls out there, that would never cheat on you.
AnyaNova Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 Let me put it this way. I have never cheated on a partner, would never, and expect the exact same respect from my partners. How is her cheating on you, somehow a "time of need," for her,. that you feel like you should have been there for her. <b>She chose to cheat on you. She made that decision, and <b>SHE is the one who has to live with it. There is someone out there for you, who will always be loyal to you. Don't settle for less, and do NOT give this cheater validation for her actions. Stay NC, heal yourself, and when you are ready, find the woman who will always be there for you, who you can always be there for, and who you two can always be faithful to each other.
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