NotOverYou Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 This past weekend, my girlfriend and I went to the club with her friends. We both were intoxicated and got into a huge argument. I said some things I shouldn't had said to her. She wanted to leave so she called one of our close friends to come pick us up. She was crying on the way home. I went too far and said more things to her. We both got dropped off. The next day, I tried to call her but she did not picked up. I text her and she finally got back to me. She said she got nothing to say to me. We didn't really address what happen the other night. She was still mad and not ready to forgive me. I text her again to apologize. Today, she called me and talked to me. We went over about the things that happen that night and she said she can't forgive me and that she's not going to give me another chance. She doesn't want to be put in this predicament again. I apologize over and over again but she's not changing her mind and she doesn't want to see me anymore. She said she doesn't need me to make it up to her. I don't know what to do right now because I want her back. I've already order flowers to be sent to her tomorrow. What are some ideas I can do to make this better? This is driving me crazy.
Dark_history Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 You might want to cancel those flowers and get your money back, since they are just going to get trashed. She has made it clear she does not want anything to do with you, she is hurt and mad. If there is any hope at all, she needs space from you. In other words you need to back off. You are coming off very desperate and needy, and also very likely annoying to her. Give her some time to sort through her feelings. Right now all you are doing is pushing her away from you more.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 You might want to cancel those flowers and get your money back, since they are just going to get trashed. She has made it clear she does not want anything to do with you, she is hurt and mad. If there is any hope at all, she needs space from you. In other words you need to back off. You are coming off very desperate and needy, and also very likely annoying to her. Give her some time to sort through her feelings. Right now all you are doing is pushing her away from you more. Couldn't agree more. What the heck did you say to her, OP?
jba10582 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 You might want to cancel those flowers and get your money back, since they are just going to get trashed. She has made it clear she does not want anything to do with you, she is hurt and mad. If there is any hope at all, she needs space from you. In other words you need to back off. You are coming off very desperate and needy, and also very likely annoying to her. Give her some time to sort through her feelings. Right now all you are doing is pushing her away from you more. take this advice
Author NotOverYou Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 Couldn't agree more. What the heck did you say to her, OP? I called her foul names. That's all I got to say. Every worst things just came out at the wrong time.
superb Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 I called her foul names. That's all I got to say. Every worst things just came out at the wrong time. Do you think there's a reason why it escalated to that? Do you think it was the drinks or do you really think those things deep down? When a man lashes out and attacks me and my character, I run too..she's probably afraid.
Author NotOverYou Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 Do you think there's a reason why it escalated to that? Do you think it was the drinks or do you really think those things deep down? When a man lashes out and attacks me and my character, I run too..she's probably afraid. That whole night was a blurred. I don't know how it escalated to where I was lashing out at her. I had way too many shots that night and I let it had the worse in me. I would never said those things to her, but something might of triggered me into saying those things. Like I said, I don't remember half of what happen that night.
Blade96 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Gotta be something else going on....I have been drunk as a skunk before and never talked to anyone that way. Alcohol does not make me violent. But it could if there is something hidden in a person's character already or there is something else going on in a relationship.
Author NotOverYou Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 Gotta be something else going on....I have been drunk as a skunk before and never talked to anyone that way. Alcohol does not make me violent. But it could if there is something hidden in a person's character already or there is something else going on in a relationship. There's nothing else going on. We both were happy and just got back from a road trip that Saturday. I had tequila shots that night and I try to stay away from it but that was all they got at house before we left.
Blade96 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 There's nothing else going on. We both were happy and just got back from a road trip that Saturday. I had tequila shots that night and I try to stay away from it but that was all they got at house before we left. well obviously something happened. You don't just get drunk and start screaming bloody murder for no reason and throwing names around. Yeah, I think you just forgot. Being drunk can erase your memory. Its happened to me. Anyways, I digress. Just let her be for a while. You will talk again, she is your gf. It wouldn't be good to just up and disappear. You both just had a traumatic experience and you both need to calm down for a while.
Author NotOverYou Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 well obviously something happened. You don't just get drunk and start screaming bloody murder for no reason and throwing names around. Yeah, I think you just forgot. Being drunk can erase your memory. Its happened to me. Anyways, I digress. Just let her be for a while. You will talk again, she is your gf. It wouldn't be good to just up and disappear. You both just had a traumatic experience and you both need to calm down for a while. Yes, something happened that I don't remember. My GF can a lot of smart-stupid things to piss me off and I am sure she said something to piss me off. I will let her be for awhile but I am still following through with the flowers. That's the most I can do right now is sending her flowers.
Tina747 Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 I don't agree that there was something necessarily wrong in their relationship to begin with.... Some people just have very bad reactions to alcohol. I have had some members in my immediate family like that, so I know. Some people can be called what are "happy drunks" but you can also have what are called "nasty" or "angry drunks" due to a chemical reaction to the alcohol. OP, it could be just how you react chemically to it.... Everyone can react different to the chemical reaction. Meaning, whether your girlfriend forgives you are not, you are someone who will always need to be very careful when you drink. You at times have a bad chemical reaction (it could be physical). But it will end up destroying your relationships. You are someone who can never drink... or be extremely careful... BTW... Also, you may find your reaction is not always bad, but you could end up reacting badly when you least expect it. Don't beat yourself up about it. Learn form it, and don't let alcohol destroy another relationship again! 2
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