bulls42 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I was in a relationship for 6 years with a girl but I cheated countless times because I guess I couldn't say no to other girls and we finally broke up in Feb. She found someone right away and I've dated about 6 girls but still can't find anything She called me in summer and said I miss you and love you, asked me out to pizza and movie, while she was with her new boyfriend, but I didn't answer her call, she got mad at me never talked to me again Now I met some girl named Dani but I texted too much and probably scared her away by asking her to be my gf after two dates but she was looking for a bf too so i figure ask but now she won't talk to me I feel alone but since I've been with so many women I just want a relationship I've been with roughly 25-30 women and I'm 28 but just feel like I can't get anyone now and feel my confidence slipping I don't consider myself a bad looking guy and have a lot of great qualities (state job, car, expensive apartment, good at sports (soccer, bball), family shore house, a lot of different friends from north and south jersey) Yet, for the first time since I was 15, I am having a hard time finding someone Now I have sex dreams about my ex gf, I mean the sex was great and fun, but just couldn't stay together because of personality differences I was with a girl last night that I work with and although we had sex and have been seeing each other I just don't feel the same about her as she feels for me Idk I'm not complaining or whining, I just feel kinda lost after being in a 6 year relationship with someone for so long Any advice from anyone would be appreciated....
nescafe1982 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I was in a relationship for 6 years with a girl but I cheated countless times because I guess I couldn't say no to other girls... ...Now I met some girl named Dani but I texted too much and probably scared her away by asking her to be my gf after two dates... I feel alone but since I've been with so many women I just want a relationship. ...I was with a girl last night that I work with and although we had sex and have been seeing each other I just don't feel the same about her as she feels for me. ...I just feel kinda lost... It sounds to me like you're looking for a relationship not out of authentic feelings for someone, but for a relationship's sake. You weren't prepared for a relationship when you compulsively cheated on your ex-GF, and it sounds like you've been rush-rush-rushing to capture a woman ever since your breakup. Why is that? I use the word "capture," rather than "date," because it genuinely sounds like you are trying to hook someone, not get to know them and find a true romantic connection. Your post almost sounds like it doesn't matter who it is... as long as she's a woman and is into you and (presumptively) will continue to be so when you start cheating on her because you "can't say no" to women's advances. I would suggest you take a break from dating for a while, and instead focus on understanding why you NEED to have an admiring woman RIGHT NOW. Why did you cheat on the last one? Why can't you "say no" to a woman? What is lacking in your life that requires you to seek approval (sexual or otherwise) from random chicks? And most importantly, why do you want a girlfriend? Until you can honestly answer these questions (and deal with the answers) I would advise you stay out of a relationship and confine yourself to casual dating (if that... I would take a breather from women for a period of weeks/ months though... sounds like you need to rebound from the last relationship w/o the drama of all these new flings). Good luck!
soccerrprp Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Wait. Did you break up b/c you're a cheater or b/c of personality differences? Dude, you effed up. 6-years!!!!!!!! You sound like a relationship junky and you used your ex for the relationship role/status, but not interested in commitment. To bad your ex didn't see you for what you were and likely still are the countless-1 time you cheated.....good luck. 1
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