imfine Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 I went from my parents home to marriage and had never been on my own until divorce. It was so hard yet so empowering. If you've never been alone, it's time. You never really know what it's like to live for YOU until you are on your own. Then you know what you want from a partner. It becomes easier to walk away from relationships that don't meet your needs because well, you don't need them. 1
MidwestUSA Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 8 years after your divorce you dated and met someone?? That is a long time?? I did not take the time after my divorce to just be...I had always been living with someone from the time I was of age...so I was co-dependent and needed someone now. For some reason, I thought it was a good idea for me to get back to the dating world before the ink on the divorce decree was dry. Bad. One of my very first dates was a wiser, older guy, who recommended I take at least two years to 'find myself', or whatever you want to call it. There was actually a book on the topic that he recommended, tho I never looked it up. I didn't quite heed his warning, and went on a whole lot of first dates. Eventually burned out on it all (OLD, ugh) and was at peace. I wasn't looking, my hubbie and I connected thru Facebook, believe it or not. And the older, wiser guy? Who I thought to be handsome and put together? Thru my new eyes, I see that he's an arrogant blowhard, LOL! If your current R should fall thru, I highly recommend taking that time to yourself, if you've never had it. Do some reading on codependency. Good luck!
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