What is blowing you off? And can it become a really huge deal in the future?

[sportygirl84]

So what really constitutes a man in a long distance relationship or the premises of starting a relationship long distance blowing off the person of interest?

 

The reason why I am asking this question is because I recently met someone off of Match.com, unexpectedly actually. I didn't look for him; he found me. We live 3 hours away and I am not the kind of person to entertain myself with anything long distance. A couple of times, we will say he will call me after he gets home from being with friends but doesn't because of friends. He will always text me the next morning to apologize to make up, which he always does make up the next day (he's pretty reliable about that) but sometimes it gets old (It's happened 3x) and I feel unimportant as of now. He is in his last year of residency for medical school and I do understand he is very busy and I respect his life style. We haven't met yet but I am concerned. He seems to be a very genuine person but I worry....

 

The length of time has been a month and a half of talking.

 

Any suggestions or thoughts?

[nomadic_butterfly]

So what really constitutes a man in a long distance relationship or the premises of starting a relationship long distance blowing off the person of interest?

 

The reason why I am asking this question is because I recently met someone off of Match.com, unexpectedly actually. I didn't look for him; he found me. We live 3 hours away and I am not the kind of person to entertain myself with anything long distance. A couple of times, we will say he will call me after he gets home from being with friends but doesn't because of friends. He will always text me the next morning to apologize to make up, which he always does make up the next day (he's pretty reliable about that) but sometimes it gets old (It's happened 3x) and I feel unimportant as of now. He is in his last year of residency for medical school and I do understand he is very busy and I respect his life style. We haven't met yet but I am concerned. He seems to be a very genuine person but I worry....

 

The length of time has been a month and a half of talking.

 

Any suggestions or thoughts?

 

If the two of you had hit it off I would say by all means explore it but obviously he isn't invested in the least bit and you are wasting your time. Long distance romances with marginal communication and interest is doomed from the get go. This is not your usually thing anyway so take it as a sign and keep it moving. Doesn't matter who found whom.

 

I dated a medical student on and off for years (me being the reason why it never got serious) and though he was sometimes floored he'd make time for me. In fact, he is in the final stages right now and offered to fly me out this month to spend even a weekend with him but I am ready to settle down so no use in wasting his time or mine.

 

I think the appeal to you is the fact he is so hard to get. He's never met you in real life so there's no real incentive after such a short time to put forth good effort unless in the little that you did speak, you stood out above the rest to the point where he is willing to do more sacrificing. Never a good sign when things are this problematic in the beginning. The ship has sailed so keep it moving; you are bound to find someone who is willing to put forth an equal effort into a potential relationship if you have standards and self respect