Thoughts grately appreciated

[CFchick06021]

Ok, so this is a sticky case on both ends. Where should I start? Here goes... I've been seeing this guy who I have know for over 1 year and a half. I've always known that he has had a crush on me but a year ago we were both married. Same situations, not happy and so on but never in my mind did I ever think I would be interested in him other than being friends. We saw each other here and there and would hang out with mutual friends but it was never anything like us being besties. Fast forward to this past August... We were just talking as friends he was going through his divorce and I was in the process of separating from my husband. He was asking me if I had any single friends to which I replied no. As time went on and he found out (not really by me) that I was separated we started talking and meeting up for a few dates here and there. I was still unsure about the whole situation, he was pursuing me like crazy. He was saying a lot of things that would make me nervous and although I like him I knew that a lot was said out of loneliness. Fast forward... Two months in we've been intimate, after that he gave me a key to which I replied that I didn't want unless he was absolutely sure. He insisted. Anyway, recently he's been going through a lot of emotional roller coasters regarding his daughter and future ex wife. Not missing the relationship but missing the comfort of having them close. I told him he needed to resolve those issues and figure out what he wants because in the end it was his choice. I told him I understood because I also have had those feelings at times and that it's natural when moving on but I didn't want him to be confused about being with me.

 

Recently I told him to stop calling, texting, or communicating. Mailed his key out and decided to cut ties because it was emotionally draining and I am going through my stuff too. It had been about a week and a half and he suddenly messages me that he hopes I'm doing well, cares about me and misses me but is emotionally messed up and confused. We talked and he said he wants to take it a day at a time, slow and not rush into getting intimate again because sex screws up things and it's easy to have sex and how it masks how well two people are compatible with each other. I care about him a lot, and I am willing to try but am I being foolish? Part of me is just turned off by the whole situation and I do have other suitors interested. I am feeling as if I should keep my options open because this man is so screwed up, if I invest anymore emotions I might end up really hurt. Any advice is welcomed.