greenlove Posted December 18, 2004 Share Posted December 18, 2004 I’ve been in a long-term relationship for almost 5 years. When I first met him he was living in Toronto and then he moved back to the U.S after 1 1/2 yrs. So we both have had to put a lot of effort into this long-distance relationship to work. The last two summers I even got a working Visa to work and live with him in the states. Now this past summer I spent 5 months with him and it was wonderful. Now that I’m back I am feeling more and more irritated with this situation. I’m constantly bitching at him b/c I feel he’s not devoting enough time to me. I know he work hard and is busy but it feels like he puts no effort anymore. I don’t know why things have to be so complicated. I’m feeling lonely and the ideas of breaking up have entered into my mind. However, he was in the army when he was 19 and is pending a reply from the army to go fight in Iraq at anytime. I think he is driving me away. I don’t know. He once tried to break up with me b/c he said he didn’t want me waiting for him. He doesn’t understand that what he’s doing is just making me mad. I’m mad b/c I feel he don’t care anymore. I wait and wait every night for him to talk to me and he’s never around. And when I tell him how I feel he just says I’m bitching at him and not-understand. Any advice is appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted December 18, 2004 Share Posted December 18, 2004 My advice is.... If he's not acting like he cares very much then why waste your time on him? I mean I understand if you love him then why wouldn't you want to work things out but it takes two to do that and if he can't see that then you deserve better. Maybe you can tell him you need space and for the two of you to possibley begin seeing other people but remain friends? That will give you a chance to get back in the dating scene (and maybe him as well) without losing him completely?! I dunno it's just a thought?! Link to post Share on other sites
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