MarilynMonroe Posted December 18, 2004 Posted December 18, 2004 Ok you guys... I have a serious issue and I don't know what to do. You all may know me from my posts about my boyfriend who's suspect for being gay. Well, things still aren't going so good. He got a new job and he has a "bisexual" guy friend there who he originally met online. Most of my absolutely straight guy friends say that your average straight man wouldn't even hold a conversation with a guy they know is gay and has flirted with them before, unless they're curious, interested, or gay themselves. Then other things are going wrong with my boyfriend. Like I'm just not happy with him at all. I've told him at leat 3 times that I'm not happy and I'm not getting anything out of this relationship and at times I feel used. I mean, for a while it looked like he was freeloading off of me for at least 3 months. Last week he was in a car accident and his car is a total lost. He's ok but I just don't like the way he handles business stuff. Like he was so totally going to let the other guy's insurance company rip him off by not getting a lawyer. He got ripped off last time he had an accident. Weak, stupid men are a big turn off for me. Anyway, the other issue is that one of my old "friends" came back from Iraq last month and we've been spending a lot of time together. We got out to eat, rent movies, and go bowling together. We also hooked two of our friends up so we go out on double dates and things are just so cool. But the issue with him is that he's 12 years older than me which is fine with both of us, but he's married and has a young child with his wife. They don't get along. He's military and she doesn't even live here with him. They only visit each other every once in a while. But they lead 2 separate lives. I'm not the type of girl that gets involved with a married man and then expects him to leave his wife. I don't want him to leave her for me, but he has been saying that he's thinking about leaving her. He and his mom and his sister don't think their son is his. He says that the little time that they are together, they just argue. He doesn't have fun with her. I knew he was married in the first place and I didn't intend for things to escalate. In fact, I was supposed to date one of his younger friends, but that guy was too immature and we just clicked and started hanging out and go attached to each other. I keep telling myself that if I actually feel myself falling in love, I'll just leave him alone totally, but I'm not totally sure if that will be as easy as I think. His wife is visiting now and I hate it. I can't see him and he sneaks to call me and I just wish he could stop by for a little while. I'm not sure why I'm telling all y'all this because I know most of you are probably just going to say that he's married so leave it alone and call me bad names or something, but everything started out so innocently and it just got weird. Now, we're getting attached and I really enjoy his company. But my conscious is eating at me... I've tried to put myself in his wife's shoes, but he sys she's cheated before... But I know you can't always believe married men. But they live so far apart that I know she has to be doing something ans she knows he's doing something... Ok, I'm confused... I guess I see how the real Marilyn Monroe felt over JFK...
moimeme Posted December 18, 2004 Posted December 18, 2004 . I keep telling myself that if I actually feel myself falling in love, I'll just leave him alone totally, but I'm not totally sure if that will be as easy as I think By the time you realize it, it will be too late. Dump this guy. Don't just take anybody's second-hand leavings because you're not happy in your relationship. Look. He's married. He supposedly loves the wife - but lies to her. Never mind whether she cheated or not - if he doesn't want to be in the marriage the ONLY answer for him is to get out of it. Meanwhile he lies to someone he supposedly loves meaning he'll lie to you, too. Don't be a fool. Drop him like a hot potato and spend some time alone before jumping into another relationship. It's not the end of the world to be on your own, you know.
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