Midnight Whisper Posted December 18, 2004 Posted December 18, 2004 What happened to the days that woman could rely on other women if there men were scuz buckets. Today, i approached a person i saw was getting a wrong end of the deal by my ex, who she was hooked up with now. My ex who still was contacting me, and communicating in ways he probably shouldnt if there is someone else in his life. (Trying to engage in phone sex, etc.) From my ex, i had heard how this person constantly felt she couldnt trust him, that he was running around wh*ring in all sorts of ways... So i thought i could be polite and help her out and tell her that she was right , that he wasnt being as faithful as he claimed, etc... Things went well at first, (we were talking in messenger), she brought a friend in, and we all started to discussing it. She was feeling really good , and then someone brought this guy into the convo. He started saying i was lying and making up all kinds of things just because i was jealous and i wanted him back. (Which i dont, because i'm with someone else, heck i am even engaged.) This girl and her friend didnt believe it at first until he went and called the girl and i dont know what kind of lies and b/s was said there because next thing i know i am being called a gutter sl*t and liar and all this other b/s. See the thing is this guy, is really bad for anyone to probably hook up with. He has this sick demented thing with wanting to participate in all sorts of illegal sex acts. (Like incest with a daughter when he has one... and well, more disgusting things you dont see here in the states but probably elsewhere in the world.) But even when this was mentioned to the girl it was turned around on me. He made it out like these were my desires and not his, which got me called more things. Finally i logged out after having enough. What i just dont get , even though this backfire... Is what is wrong with women these days that they are so hard up for men that they will deal with almost anything thats wrong with them. Oh and she tried to throw in my face because she was Latina and she wouldnt let him do her wrong or something. I am not prejudice or nothing but i dont understand what that has to do with anything... If anyone cares to enlighten me on whats so wrong with me trying to be friend to someone to save them from possibly a bad choice.. feel free to post. Honestly, i dont see i did anything wrong here. One more note though, this girl does have a b/f at home, and he supposedily beats her, etc etc and thats why she is going to leave for this ex of mine or something... but she's going to split and leave her kids behind, abadoning them an other words.... So i am sure this just might be some psycholgical problem she has... but then again, her friend joined in with being all hateful and stuff too.
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 18, 2004 Posted December 18, 2004 Women are naturally competitive. Throw a man into the picture and you'll see just how competitive things can get. All that 'female bonding' stuff goes right out the door when men and love are concerned. I'm sorry you got the bad end of the deal, but oftentimes that is exactly what will happen. If man A and girl B are dating, and girl C is the "ex" - then its an iron clad guarantee that girl B is going to believe every horrible thing about girl C that man A tells her. Girl B is in love, and will readily believe that the "bitch ex girlfriend" is the bad guy here. In this case, this jackass didn't want to fess up to his woman about what kind of a person he really was - so he pinned the blame on the one person who is a sure thing for taking the blame: "the ex". There really isn't anything you can do. As long as the girl with your ex loves him, she isn't going to believe anything you say. Particularly when he just keep piling on the BS about you. Eventually, she'll find out some hard truths - the kind that she can only find out on her own. Your best bet is to distance yourself from both of them, and move on.
alphamale Posted December 18, 2004 Posted December 18, 2004 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia Women are naturally competitive. Throw a man into the picture and you'll see just how competitive things can get. All that 'female bonding' stuff goes right out the door when men and love are concerned. I'm sorry you got the bad end of the deal, but oftentimes that is exactly what will happen. dEAR LucreaizB: The above is sooo true. When it comes to getting and keeping a particular man, a woman has NO true friends. For instance. You have a room with 4 women who have been long time friends and all four are single and available. A good looking, rich, smart guy walks in the room. The four women will be jumping all over each other to get him and if they don't do that they will back-stab and decieve. I have been hit on many times by girlfriends of women I was dating. The girlfriends sorta assume that if I am good enuf for her friend then I am good enuf for her.
Author Midnight Whisper Posted December 18, 2004 Author Posted December 18, 2004 Yeah women are comptetive that i know. Thing i dont get is that she was ready to leave him because she had her doubts, and then here he comes.. "Oh you dont trust me enough snookie ookums. She wants back with me so she of course is going to tell you all sorts of bad things." etc.... Thing is.. one if a girl wants back with an ex, why would she bad mouth him, knowing its going to get back to him, wouldnt she want to kiss his *ss but just do something to the girl to get her to leave....I mean i've been around a few years, i know the dating scene will probably never change but i know, if someone is bad mouthing a guy that i am with and its already having the feelings thats true, why listen to the jack'*sses lies. ... And then men wonder why some women go uh, lesbian. Anyway, to each there on. Stupid does as stupid will. lol The two idiots deserve each other.
whichwayisup Posted December 18, 2004 Posted December 18, 2004 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia Women are naturally competitive. Throw a man into the picture and you'll see just how competitive things can get. All that 'female bonding' stuff goes right out the door when men and love are concerned. I'm sorry you got the bad end of the deal, but oftentimes that is exactly what will happen. I agree 100% sadly enough though. I wish it wasn't so, but it is like something in some women just take over and the sane thought process gets chucked out the window!
indigo_moon Posted December 18, 2004 Posted December 18, 2004 If you're now engaged and have moved on from your ex, how did you ever hear about this woman? and how did you manage to get in touch with her on messenger? that seems kind of odd to me. secondly, their reaction isn't so hard to believe...........while you may feel your intentions were pure and honest, think about it...............you're an ex who's telling dirt on him..........of course he's going to try and cover his arse and make you out to be a liar to take the heat off of himself........and of course if she likes him, she's going to want to believe that you're just a jilted ex who wants him back and his making stuff up to hurt him. It's best for you to must move along and let her figure this all out on her own. However, one thing...........if you knew he was into "incest" (you made some reference to it), did you ever report this to the police? If not, why not?
Author Midnight Whisper Posted December 18, 2004 Author Posted December 18, 2004 Well, Indigo Moon. The guy was ALWAYS calling me. I even changed email addresses, phone numbers and everything.. but he still tracked me down. It was like i had a stalker, the only reason i heard and had this other girls email addy/IM nic is because it was given to me when he tried to play , i dont trust him stuff eons ago. I ended it because he wanted us to start a family and he wanted a daughter so when she turned 13/14 he could start sleeping with her. He tried to justify it by saying that he would let me sleep with our son if had one... I DONT THINK SO!! But this guy i am with now, i was with before i hooked up with mr. jack'*ss in the first place and yeah i got swept off my feet by all the crap he did or said.. but i wised up pretty quickly to his game and curiousily enough my now b/f took me back. WHich pissed of jack*ss and he was trying to ruin things again.. but in the meantime this one moved on to girl B, then when girl B had enough of his sickness, he moved on to now girl C. I mean, i am sorry guys out there but this guy here really gives majority of you want to be players a bad name. He's that smooth..... anyway, after giving up on trying to avoid him, he kept calling and i talked to him, he would b*tch and complain about girl C about her not trusting him, etc. The girl seem to be in my same shoe's so i sent her an email not really expecting to hear back but she did contact me back and we talked. She was believing every dang word i had to say, until she was stupid enough to leg the jack*ss call her and he was able to get to her that way..... Yeah i know i needed to stay out of it, but had i known ahead of time before i even got with this guy what he was like... well.. i would have loved any girl to come forward and say something to me.. but no one did... So yeah, its my fault. As far as the pedophile that he could possibly be or become... yeah its been reported... but this guy is in Canada and there isnt much anyone can do here from the states. The guy doesnt have a prior conviction for anything and he doesnt currently have his own kids so, aint nothing going to come of it... Too top it all off his father is a criminal attorney.. anyone that actually gets this guy busted would have it probably backfire on them anyway. What aggravated me the most is that he tried to tell this girl i was into this sh*t. I am not a mother, probably wont ever get the chance to be but i sure as hell would hurt or hunt out and string any person alive by whatever body part that would be most painful if they hurt my children or children period. I dont put up with child molesters. This is any legit persons way of dealing with it. Course this guy was into animals too if you know what i mean. That he tried to put on my shoulders too. Anyone that wants to email this guy and give them a piece of their mind... i'll gladly pass on his email addy. lol
whichwayisup Posted December 18, 2004 Posted December 18, 2004 Canada or not, I'd still call the police. Keep a record of EVERYTHING and ANYTHING he writes to you. He's not well in the head and needs some help.
Author Midnight Whisper Posted December 18, 2004 Author Posted December 18, 2004 Already been doing that for some time. Been trying to research on where the info could actually be sent there in Canada.. besides the local police there...
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 18, 2004 Posted December 18, 2004 Originally posted by Midnight Whisper ... but she's going to split and leave her kids behind, abadoning them an other words.... I hope she does abandon her kids - that way her pedophilic new boyfriend can't get his hands on them. Of course, that would leave them in the hands of the abusive father. Hopefully the abuse didn't include them. Damn. Poor kids.
Author Midnight Whisper Posted December 18, 2004 Author Posted December 18, 2004 Well last i heard in the last couple of hours. She's taking them with her now. Just going to up and leave while abusive b/f is at work and go to Cananda with them. ((Only know this info because my current beau and my ex got into it in a chat room.. and thats what was said back. Was that she was bringing the kids... Whether its true or not... i have no clue.)) Poor children is right.
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 18, 2004 Posted December 18, 2004 There is no words to describe how angry it makes me to think of this woman delivering her children to a pedophile on a silver platter.
Barby Posted December 18, 2004 Posted December 18, 2004 There is no words to describe how angry it makes me to think of this woman delivering her children to a pedophile on a silver platter. If in fact any of this is accurate info.... If indeed this is the HONEST truth then the police do need to be informed so that they can keep an eye on him and make sure he isn't harming any children from the neighborhood, or viewing online kiddie porn, ect. How did you meet this guy and are you from Canada as well? Sorry I'm just curious?!
Author Midnight Whisper Posted December 18, 2004 Author Posted December 18, 2004 I know how you exactly feel. But i guess from what she thinks its better that then her being beat constantly. I guess she doesnt believe he's that way because i mentioned it, and like i said he tried to throw it on my shoulders... i was the one that got told to seek professional help.. because of his lies to her. I have an idea who her current beau is online in a chatroom but after this last confrontation and from what i understand about him... mentioning the fact to him isnt any better.... but i wonder too if its true he beats her. And she claims that he does for the attention.
Author Midnight Whisper Posted December 18, 2004 Author Posted December 18, 2004 Originally posted by Barby If in fact any of this is accurate info.... If indeed this is the HONEST truth then the police do need to be informed so that they can keep an eye on him and make sure he isn't harming any children from the neighborhood, or viewing online kiddie porn, ect. How did you meet this guy and are you from Canada as well? Sorry I'm just curious?! Oh no i am not from Canada... I actually met the guy online.. and embaressed to say i let him call me and well, um, we had phone sex and all but i thought it would end there. He latched on to me after that and well, after a few months of avoiding him. I actually started to like him... then the truth with his sicknesses start to come out and he tried to even convince me this stuff was ok and acceptable.. but i am not gullable... ended the relationship promptly.. my current beau seemed to stick through this all with me and took me back when i had my head clear... .. I mean i guess i fell for the jerk because he was pretty romantic, singing and sending poems.. buying things for me though we had never physically met.. ..I mean though i had never met him person, other then seeing webcam images and talking on to the phone.. he was rather mainupilative... YOu could almost believe everything this guy had to say.... but eventually the mind fog cleared away and i could see him for what he was....
Barby Posted December 18, 2004 Posted December 18, 2004 So your current beau is he online as well? I guess you could take his words at face value because I doubt someone would say that he liked young girls if he actually didn't....that's just absolutely sick....since you tried to tell this new girl this info it's outta your hands now.
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