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me85 Established Member

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So my ex (officially after 2 weeks) has deleted and blocked me from his FB after I questioned his relationship with some strange older woman in another state. Now, what do you know I can't search her name on FB. Hmmmm…he says he's not involved with her, but I'm not a flipping idiot. I'm so done with the lies. Shame on me. Thought I knew him better than that. Something is definitely up because I don't even know the B. This is my gut feeling, that he told her I asked questions about him, or worse, that I was some psycho.. and so then she blocked me too. FEEDBACK ANYONE?

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Why are you searching him and this woman on Facebook? Who cares if he's banging her now. He is your EX! You deserve better. Focus on you.

organizedchaos Established Member

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So my ex (officially after 2 weeks) has deleted and blocked me from his FB after I questioned his relationship with some strange older woman in another state. Now, what do you know I can't search her name on FB. Hmmmm…he says he's not involved with her, but I'm not a flipping idiot. I'm so done with the lies. Shame on me. Thought I knew him better than that. Something is definitely up because I don't even know the B. This is my gut feeling, that he told her I asked questions about him, or worse, that I was some psycho.. and so then she blocked me too. FEEDBACK ANYONE?

 

You don't have the right to question who he sees after the bu. You are being a psycho for doing all this fb stalking.

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I disagree. I think she has every right to be upset about it. Now, is there anything she can DO about it? No. BUt don't disregard her feelings. I hate that. "Its none of your business what they do". I'm sorry but you can't just spend a long time with a person and then magically - poof! - shut that off. Of COURSE she's concerned with it, its probably eating her up and making her really upset!!

 

However, they are right when they say she shouldn't be looking them up. Its natural to want to but all it does is make it worse. Trust me. You DON'T want to know.

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organizedchaos Established Member

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I disagree. I think she has every right to be upset about it. Now, is there anything she can DO about it? No. BUt don't disregard her feelings. I hate that. "Its none of your business what they do". I'm sorry but you can't just spend a long time with a person and then magically - poof! - shut that off. Of COURSE she's concerned with it, its probably eating her up and making her really upset!!

 

However, they are right when they say she shouldn't be looking them up. Its natural to want to but all it does is make it worse. Trust me. You DON'T want to know.

 

Yes, she had every right to be upset about it. She has no right to question him on it now.

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It would be stupid, yes and would get her nowhere. I understand how she feels, though. I wouldn't call her a "psycho" for it.

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Mz_sassy_77 Established Member

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He probably doesn't want you saying anything bad to her about him so said something to her to make her block you. When my ex talks about things in our RS it's always made to look like the issues we had were all mine. He always comes out smelling like roses and I look like an idiot or a bitch. If you can't contact her then you can't say anything bad about him to her so yeah he probably said some stuff to her to make her block you.

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denxnis Established Member

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Sorry to hear, people can be very selfish.

 

My best advice to get back at him, ignore him and move on. Once he realizes he doesn't have your attention he will try to get it somehow, 99% sure of this, just keep ignoring and move on.

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Fufu Established Member

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he's an ex, (he has exited your life) doesn't matter he dates any other woman.

 

Most importantly, it's all about YOU now.

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me85 Established Member

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Thanks for all of the solid advice guys. Me and my ex dated for more than 2 years and were still very much involved after the BU (which I really regret-so foolish) because he was confused, blah blah blah. What made it so bad was a week before him doing this nonsense on FB he told me we would be together forever (did I mention there is a ring involved?) the next I know he's doing dirt with another female by telling her bad stuff about me to where she would block me. But who cares she is a stranger & does not know me. It's HIM. I felt so much betrayal because he has never turned on in such a way.

 

It came about out of nowhere and so suddenly that it had "there's someone else" written all over it. I had to go with my gut feeling and I was right. I was not "stalking" anyone just because I looked up a girl's name once on FB ONCE to see if she blocked me & sure enough...he was lieing to me. He said he was not involved with her. Ha! He has been leading me on & keeping me as an option. Wanting to have his cake & eat it to. He wanted to hide his activity from me on FB because he didn't want to ruin things with me if he didn't find something better on his "journey."

 

And you just don't do that to people.

 

I'm glad I confronted him about it. He admitted he told her I was asking him questions & she told him she was blocking me.

 

Knife in the heart.

 

Oh but says he "loves me very much & is so sorry, it's not what it seems..." (yawn)

 

They became FB friends a week prior, she lives in another state, I mean...WHO IS SHE TO YOU all of the sudden to be talking to her on that level about US?!

 

There is so much more to the story but whatever. Past is past.

 

At least now I have my closure. It's much easier to let go when you know what a liar they are.

 

I also want to say, we are both 28. The way he is conducting himself is so childlike & petty. Never thought he stoop so low.

 

THANKS TAR-82! Trust me, I am NOT sweating it anymore. I'm actually happier knowing this monkey is completely off my back now!!

 

I know him, his conscience is eating him alive. He's been texting "how are you" oh please! As if you care! Haha He'll have his turn to cry & wish he had me back by his side -no doubt-but he messed all that up.

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Sorry for the typos! :o

 

Thanks DENXNIS!

 

Thanks Fufu!

 

MZ...you are so right.

 

MAM...your avatar rocks! & I know you're right. No worries! I'm a strong, smart, happy girl.:D But, um, yuuuuuuk errrrrrrr blah NASTY...do NOT want to think about that bang session!!! :sick:

 

He's definetely down-graded, for sure. That's just being honest. She's just feeding his ego which is SO IMPORTANT to him. It's seriously sickening how much attention he graves. We are complete opposites in that way.

 

Live long and prosper people! V

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I found myself in the same situation not once, but a few times with my ex. (stupid, stupid, I know!) We had been together around 5 years. We also had plans to marry. As much pain as I went through in that relationship, I am so glad it turned out the way it did. We eventually broke up because I'd just had it with the lies. These sorts of situations give SO MUCH insight into a person's true nature.

 

 

I was around the same age as you when we broke up for good, and a few months later, I met the man I am actually going to marry in a few short months. You have a great attitude. Life will be awesome again soon. You'll meet someone worthwhile (because you're all the wiser now!) :)

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me85 Established Member

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C*raves...dang. lol I swear I know how to spell people. :laugh:

 

Thank you so much Mercuryshadow! :D

 

& you are so right to say these type of situations show you so much insight to a person's true nature. The way he is, if he gets bored or doesn't feel "desired" anymore he moves on to the next girl. Just like that. I knew it would turn out this way between us. He's very shallow and has no idea what love really is or how to communicate and put forth real effort to make a relationship work. He just leaves the girl or cheats on her then dumps her after. He's confessed this to me. Should have hit the hills running right then & there! lol This guy is very very shallow. Wish I could warn girls about him because he truly is just a player & a heartbreaker who is only in it for the sex and attention...all for himself. "Oh she wants me to try harder & consider her feelings??? That's just crazy & too much to handle."

 

Your story is quite inspiring. 5 years? Then a few months later met the one you're actually supposed to marry? Wow.:love:

 

CONGRATULATIONS on your engagement & upcoming wedding!!!! That is so wonderful! You are such a nice person.

 

& thank you. You are right, I AM all the wiser now.:)

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