Blade96 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I study Russian language. I needed to hear someone speaking the language because I am able to write very well (even though I still do make mistakes) But, my speaking is poor, because a lot of the words I have to use in speaking, well they aren't in my memory yet. So I went looking for someone who could skype with me. I found a guy, and we have been skyping about a month now. talking, chatting, whatever almost every day. The issue, is, For while now, I have felt as if he were flirting. His behavior was kinda classic...he loved to talk to me til 4 in the morning (his time) He is protective of me, he didnt like it when another Russian guy made fun of one of my mistakes and questioned whether I had ever done russian in university (I had) and he told me to stay with him. He wants to know everything i'm doing, reading, seeing, even music I listen to. He sends smiles and winkies, and he jokes with me often. He likes to talk to me for hours almost every day. I do like him a lot. He is lovely, and so kind. But I wanted him to admit he was flirting or at least not deny it. So I asked him (he had said he found me interesting) "You find me interesting as what, a student of russian language, as a friend?" He said he did not know how to answer. So I pressed on : "Is it because I am a young woman (35) and you are a man?" And this is what he said, which I translated as (we write only in russian) this: " I'm writing, that I'm interested. I'm interested: How much time needs to pass until you understand where I write with capital letter?" I wasnt sure what this meant though. Does it seem like he confirmed or at least did not deny? Do you have any idea what the capital letter sentence means? I asked another friend and she wasnt sure. Does it sound like he does not deny and is into me? Thank you, Blade
Uwaae Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Do you understand how psycho you sound? I'm actually trying to give you some help here, and tell you to leave the psycho babble questions out of it, if you are romantically interested in the guy. The guy thinks that youre intelligent enough to understand if he's flirting with you are not. DO NOT ACT LIKE YOU ARE NOT INTELLIGENT. Anyway, if you keep pressing, you might just get an answer you dont like, and then you can find another person to learn Russian with. I hope this is productive info for you
superb Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Do you understand how psycho you sound? I'm actually trying to give you some help here, and tell you to leave the psycho babble questions out of it, if you are romantically interested in the guy. The guy thinks that youre intelligent enough to understand if he's flirting with you are not. DO NOT ACT LIKE YOU ARE NOT INTELLIGENT. Anyway, if you keep pressing, you might just get an answer you dont like, and then you can find another person to learn Russian with. I hope this is productive info for you LOL...everything about this made me laugh
todreaminblue Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 hey, yes he is interested in you ...when you say you are interested in someone it means you do like them .....in any language ....its universal to say .......good luck .....just be yourself...the one he is interested in dont keep questioning him....i think tis cofnronting to a negative degree to openly admit hey i am flirting with you or to ask are you flirting with me is a bit immature..... ...if you are mature you know the difference if you are being flirted with.....his signs are pretty obvious..it goes beyond friendly.....deb
Author Blade96 Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 (edited) Thanks guys. Yeah, it seems pretty obvious that I did interpret the signals correctly. I was not sure because to be honest I have never looked for any sort of thing online. My relationships I had met them at university, for example. So I just felt like I had to ask around and I felt this was a good place to come. I am just going to back off with the questioning, I mean, and just enjoy being with him and studying Russian with him. I didnt even look for romance when studying Russian. Hell I only was interested in Russian. But , idk, I fell for him because of how he's treating me. He is obviously a gentleman, and so lovely. He is a man, not an immature boy (he is older than me, about 15 years older) and yes, I do have the intelligence that older people seek. I was just writing to make sure and to see if I had interpreted things correctly, because as I have said, I have never started anything online before. although in his/her reply was a bit - impetuous a psycho, wow I have never been in my life a psycho But the advice is spot on. another reason I came here is that Strangers will often tell you things that friends won't because well they are friends and friends do not wish to hurt you and yes friends will hide things. Thanks guys and girls. Edited November 11, 2013 by Blade96
Author Blade96 Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 (edited) Update: I wish to smile and say thank you for the advice. It worked like a charm I did not say anything else just chatted with him. Seriozha (short diminutive form of the Russian name Sergei) asked what I was doing. Shortly before, I had an awesome song on and I was singing along. I said singing. I'm not great but I do love to do it. He said "If you sing, it will always be great." Then he commented on my new profile pic on skype. He said "And you look good!" with a wink. I told him all about Remembrance Day, Nov 11 and how we in Newfoundland, Canada, marked the day with our annual events. I did not press him, just as you suggested! He was impressed and said he had learned a lot. Their holiday is May 9th, the day when the Soviets always marked their victory over Germany in WW2. He was the one who was direct, not me. So I just want to say thank you so much! The "psycho"comment still makes me laugh though Edited November 11, 2013 by Blade96 1
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