MidwestUSA Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Yeah I thought that was a reason why he could be mad at me or view me in a negative way. I intended to go home but my friend persuaded me to keep going out. Anyways even if that's why he acted the way he did, I'm not sure there's a way to change his mind. Well, when I have an amazing date, I tend to go home and reflect on it. Maybe text him to say thanks, and maybe masturbate! Then it's off to sweet dreams, happy date time. Because if it's going to be a one date only thing, I'm gonna enjoy it while it lasts!
myothernic2 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I def know he's not looking for a partier. What mature guy is? But I don't know how to show him the other sides of me if he chooses to not even talk to me. When we talked, we just exchanged messages once a day, or a couple times a week. It was hard bc there wasn't much to talk about since we never really see each other. I found the texting very slow-paced and boring. However in real life, we had a lot of fun together. I understand where you're coming from with him at least hearing you out if that was the case. When he said "Are you leaving with me or going with bar hopping with your friends" did he mean are you going home the same time he was or staying out with your friends or did he mean come home with me? I'm not too sure he meant come home with me but just testing to see if you were a clubbing all night girl. In the beginning, sometimes stuff like that is a major turn off and the person immediately counts you out as any real potential. He could also just have been looking to get laid fast, but for some reason, I'm not too sure that was it.
winny Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I don't think being out with her friends one night is going to drive a guy away. If it did, then its his loss. Because this is how she is actually. She does love to have a good time with her friends sometimes. If the guy was into her he will give her more chances and try to know all about her and not write her off like this. He would be happy that she is happy and having a good time. And not judge her. Pink Carnations - Please don't at all feel bad. U did fine. 1
myothernic2 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I don't think being out with her friends one night is going to drive a guy away. If it did, then its his loss. Because this is how she is actually. She does love to have a good time with her friends sometimes. If the guy was into her he will give her more chances and try to know all about her and not write her off like this. He would be happy that she is happy and having a good time. And not judge her. Pink Carnations - Please don't at all feel bad. U did fine. Like I said, maybe he got the wrong impression of her and it turned him off. If that's the case, it's his fault for not getting a better idea of her character before jumping to conclusions.
winny Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Like I said, maybe he got the wrong impression of her and it turned him off. If that's the case, it's his fault for not getting a better idea of her character before jumping to conclusions. Or he was just looking for a one night stand In either case, there is nothing to worry. She has to worry, if he comes back few days later and initiates contact again
myothernic2 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Or he was just looking for a one night stand In either case, there is nothing to worry. She has to worry, if he comes back few days later and initiates contact again I already said that maybe he was looking for a one night stand. I would probably move on either way if I were her, I would be turned off by his ignoring me. 2
Phantom888 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 this guy is total scum. He wrote you off because you didn't sleep with him. i dont know why some of these guys think women are not worth the effort to pursue. I mean, drinks and no dinner first? No getting to know her extensively before inviting her over? So these guys are not into time investment, because they think it's way easier to move on to the next target. These guys are life-long bachelors, so you are better off staying away from them.
Blade96 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 See, PinkFlower? You did the right thing! You were the mature one, and he can just go fly if he doesn't appreciate what a nice girl you seem to be, judging from your posts. His loss! Let me say again that you will meet other guys, some who will be your friends, and some who will like to date you, and all of THEM - both friends and more than friends - will appreciate your maturity. 1
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