melell Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 I am 26, and 5-6 months out of an 8 year relationship. I wonder if there are any preconceived notions about females who are single at this age. In the 'why are you single' respect. Do people automatically assume they aren't relationship material etc. Link to post Share on other sites
ls32ssibm Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 I think more of a 25 year old single girl than a 25 year old girl divorced with three kids because she got married two young. I am a 25 year old male, so I'd seen them as a potential partner as I am also single (depending). 4 Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 I know you're asking for male feedback, but I'd personally steer clear of you who at 26 has been tied down for 8 years with no experience being single. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 I have absolutely no thoughts negative or positive about a woman who is single at 25 or higher. That is nigh mutable. What is good, is her attitude and ability to connect 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 I'm 25 and a single man. Uhh, I love it. I have seen a few people my age, male and female, settle down too early and have kids and they end up resenting their decision. Being single at 25 shows me a certain level of maturity. You didn't buy into the bullsh*t that women must be married with kids before their late 20s or else they'll be too wrinkled up to have kids and no man will settle down with them. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Author melell Posted November 11, 2013 Author Share Posted November 11, 2013 I know you're asking for male feedback, but I'd personally steer clear of you who at 26 has been tied down for 8 years with no experience being single. This is a good point and exactly what I mean. The assumption is there. It is true, I have no experience dating- so that will rightly be the impression given. I have a masters degree, and am going through the phd process. I have a really good job. Have just purchased my own house (21 years to pay off though). I am really independent in most respects- but the impression that I don't know how to be single is still going to be there. Link to post Share on other sites
superb Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 No thoughts really. You're good. If a girl is 30+ and single, I assume that she either has baby rabies or is just looking for sex. LOL....I'm 34 and single and neither apply but I've also been married before. Idk if you should judge a situation until you get to know a person. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 Well I do prefer my ladies to be single. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
Author melell Posted November 11, 2013 Author Share Posted November 11, 2013 haha, oh dear. Link to post Share on other sites
jba10582 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 As a male I do not at all look down upon a female being single for too long. Here is my honest reason why I think this may bother females more than males: Males do not seem to have the societal pressure as much as women do in being single for too long. And in the physical sense, males also do not have a biological time clock to have children either. I know it sounds like some psychology crud, but I feel like women also have this subconcious intuition that a lot of guys do not. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 I doubt the vast majority of men see 25 as a major cut-off point. I think that's a little of your own insecurity shining through. 25 hit me like a brick too, so I get it. (Not that 25 "hit you like a brick" just that you kind of go, "wow, I'm half-done my 20s erhmegahd!") 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 I'm soon to be 25, am single, and would be amazed if people had a problem with this. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author melell Posted November 11, 2013 Author Share Posted November 11, 2013 As a male I do not at all look down upon a female being single for too long. Here is my honest reason why I think this may bother females more than males: Males do not seem to have the societal pressure as much as women do in being single for too long. And in the physical sense, males also do not have a biological time clock to have children either. I know it sounds like some psychology crud, but I feel like women also have this subconcious intuition that a lot of guys do not. Yep. Agreed. Link to post Share on other sites
superb Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 You are the exception to the rule then. But as George Clooney said in the movie "Up in the Air": "I stereotype. It's faster." Haha....whatever works for you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
superb Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 The thing is girls can get into relationships fairly easily regardless of what they look like. Most have tons of options. But many are too picky. Most men do not have these options. I think society is beginning to acknowledge and understand this. I disagree with this...I feel in the dating world that it's still very much a mans world. I also think men are too picky and unrealistic, delusional even....lol 4 Link to post Share on other sites
jba10582 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 The thing is girls can get into relationships fairly easily regardless of what they look like. Most have tons of options. But many are too picky. Most men do not have these options. I think society is beginning to acknowledge and understand this. It just depends on what you're looking for. I didn't look it up, but I'd guess it's close to a 50/50 split on the male/female ratio. Link to post Share on other sites
CptSaveAho Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 I disagree with this...I feel in the dating world that it's still very much a mans world. I also think men are too picky and unrealistic, delusional even....lol yup... and we prefer 25-26 tops never married, no kids, no hangups on loser ex's, no criminal record, no addictions, no debt not our job to clean up after your mess Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 yup... and we prefer 25-26 tops never married, no kids, no hangups on loser ex's, no criminal record, no addictions, no debt not our job to clean up after your mess Of course. And of course you guys are all willing to supply: 1) never married 2) no kids 3 no hangups (I have yet to meet the mythical "no hang up man.") 4 no criminal record 5 no debt 6 no addictions 7 not trying to get a woman to clean up your "mess...." Right? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 Do a search on LS. Common themes: Women - the guy I like doesn't like me back Men - No girl likes me This reflects what I've seen IRL. I've seen a lot of: "He doesn't like me back." "If she liked me, she'd make it much more obvious than trying to take an interest in my interests or asking me to hang out at XYZ. Gawd why does she keep me in the 'friendzone' while asking if I have a gf, trying to hang around and dressing extra sexy? Why do women TEASE like that? Meanwhile all these other guys ask her out and I don't have a chance. I'm not even going to try to embarrass myself by asking her out. Dammit, she's messaging me again! Why!? Oh cruel world, why do you taunt me!?" Link to post Share on other sites
HeartDesires Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 If a girl is 30+ and single, I assume that she either has baby rabies or is just looking for sex. NOT TRUE!....I am 32 and no one in IRL has an issue with it. I am neither of those things you assume. The thing is girls can get into relationships fairly easily regardless of what they look like. Most have tons of options. But many are too picky. You can go ahead and call me "picky", I don't care...I'm happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author melell Posted November 11, 2013 Author Share Posted November 11, 2013 This is what I mean. What are the common assumptions about it. Even when the assumptions don't reflect reality, I want to know what those assumptions are. Link to post Share on other sites
Titania22 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 I am 26, and 5-6 months out of an 8 year relationship. LOL....I'm 34 and single and neither apply but I've also been married before. Idk if you should judge a situation until you get to know a person. I'm 41 and single. Men and Women can be single at any age, for any number of reasons. This isn't something worth worrying about 26. Most men seem to prefer women in their 20's anyway, and I would imagine they prefer them to be single. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 Nothing wrong being single at any ages.. Link to post Share on other sites
MalachiX Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 There's no assumptions. Seriously. Guys may start to assume that after 30 (I don't but some do). As long as you're in your 20s most guys don't think anything. Honestly, it's stupid to judge anyone on being single. As for being in a relationship for so long, it's not something that would freak me out. At least you know what a relationship is and how to handle one. Lots of men and women are in your place. They were with their high school or college sweetheart for a long time and missed the chance to learn how to date. Some catch up very fast. The only thing that worries me a bit at your age is if you've never been in a relationship. That tends to be a challenge just because the person doesn't have a great understanding of how they work. I'm sure that's not true of all people in their mid 20s who have always been single but I've seen more than a few cases where it causes problems. Link to post Share on other sites
Blade96 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 LOL....I'm 34 and single and neither apply but I've also been married before. Idk if you should judge a situation until you get to know a person. 35 and single and I second this! We're out there! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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