TrailHawk235 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 The Ex and I were living together for close to 4 years After the first 2 years we started having problems 3 years in, we broke up and she moved into her own apartment For the next year we continued to see each other every night at my place. We would have arguments and she would leave to her place. We were both very busy, very stressed and avoided talking about the problems with the relathionship and plans for the future. At 4 years I moved and shortly after we had an argument. The next day I went to her place, she didnt want me there so I left. On the way home she texted me about how the relationship always led to arguments and she felt we werent right for each other, and one of us would always contact the other and we would fall into the same pattern of problems time and time again. I did not respond to the text and the relationship went into No Contact We both paid our own way we didnt argue about money. The relationship was never abusive. we disagreed I would say its black and my ex would say its white It has been 4 months of no contact and I think about her more than I should each day I focus on work, I am also putting alot of time and energy into bettering myself, focusing on my goals. I tried to keep it short and left out 4 years of important details and memories I miss her so much and I really want to break no contact.
me85 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I totally know where you are coming from & cannot WAIT to go more than a week of NC. I am fresh out of communication. 2 years together-4 months apart. Ugh! He was MY life. We were the same exact way. Only to be honest, he was abusive and stupidly I always forgave him. It wasn't as bad as it could have been but the verbal and mental on top of his drunken out of control temper was totally damaging to me and like a fool I still love him. He recently officially ended it with me (only to regain power because I officially ended it 2 weeks ago because he was manipulating me) and I'm totally devastated not having him in my life & he even is being open to dating other people. OUCH. I say, hold strong TrailHawke! 4 months is awesome! Good for you. But I always follow my heart even it leads me in the "wrong" direction. I really don't think it's ever wrong to follow your heart. But you can't love them back to you. If they don't they don't. She respected you & loved you enough to let you go so you both could be happy and move on. That takes courage and I'm sure it has not been a breeze for her by any means. You guys invested in each other in a committed relationship for 4 years so that means something. I'm scared mine is completely dead from all the damage sometimes it can't be repaired so you have to just let it die and keep the faith and maybe have a strong new healthy happy relationship together in the future. I told my ex that but he didn't have much to say. Jerk. lol Do what you feel is right for you. It wouldn't hurt things.
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