AntiSocal Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Serious problem. I always feel like girls should be more affectionate towards me then they are. I feel like if a girl really loves me she will be all over me 24/7 and want to do anything to please to me. The girl i'm dating right now is pretty affectionate/10 but i still can't help but feel that she isn't affectionate enough. I am actually a very affectionate person. I make my girlfriends feel great about themselves. But i feel like i've never met a girl who really made me feel the same way, or who could genuinely return my level of affection and love. I guess i just love to good. Like the best at loving. But idk should i just dump this girl? I feel like no girl even exists who can love me on the level that i love at you know what i mean?
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I know what you mean. I am also very affectionate which is probably too much for most guys. I always feel like I am giving more and have to tone it down
ConstantVoyager Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Relationships are all about compromise. You need to find a girl who is comfortable giving you enough for you to be happy, not one who should be willing to do anything to please you.
NJtoDC Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Serious problem. I always feel like girls should be more affectionate towards me then they are. I feel like if a girl really loves me she will be all over me 24/7 and want to do anything to please to me. I think this expectation is excessive, if you are being serious. Probably why you haven't found it. On you 24/7 and anything to please you? I am actually a very affectionate person. I make my girlfriends feel great about themselves. But i feel like i've never met a girl who really made me feel the same way, or who could genuinely return my level of affection and love. I guess i just love to good. Like the best at loving. But idk should i just dump this girl? I feel like no girl even exists who can love me on the level that i love at you know what i mean? How do you define love? Constant physical contact and bending to your every desire? What is it you offer your girlfriends that makes you the best at love? Why are you not content with the level of affection and 'love' your GF gives you?
Author AntiSocal Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 Serious problem. I always feel like girls should be more affectionate towards me then they are. I feel like if a girl really loves me she will be all over me 24/7 and want to do anything to please to me. I think this expectation is excessive, if you are being serious. Probably why you haven't found it. On you 24/7 and anything to please you? I am actually a very affectionate person. I make my girlfriends feel great about themselves. But i feel like i've never met a girl who really made me feel the same way, or who could genuinely return my level of affection and love. I guess i just love to good. Like the best at loving. But idk should i just dump this girl? I feel like no girl even exists who can love me on the level that i love at you know what i mean? How do you define love? Constant physical contact and bending to your every desire? What is it you offer your girlfriends that makes you the best at love? Why are you not content with the level of affection and 'love' your GF gives you? Basically a person who is all over you 24/7 and will do anything to please you, has no spine, so self-confidence and definitely no boundaries. Basically, they're a co-dependent mess. There's a bit difference between doing nice things for someone and being affectionate, and being needy and clingy. TBH, needy and clingy shouldn't be to hard to find. Date 'em young and inexperienced and they'll be psychotic, jealous, clingy messes.... I don't want a clingy girl, i don't have time for that. I obviously want a girl who is successful in life and has her own focus other than me. That being said i am really good at reading people, so i know what makes them feel good. Its like i can read a girls mind and i always know what to say and when to say it. But nobody does the same for me... girls never say what i want to hear, when i want to hear it. Seems like they are always too wrapped up in themselves. Guess i'm just being the needy one.
Shepp Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I feel like if a girl really loves me she will be all over me 24/7 and want to do anything to please to me. For real? If a girl was all over me 24/7 I would run. A. Mile!!! Thou to be fair if a girl was all over me 10/7 I'd run a mile - Clinginess is a turn off for me and I really hate people sucking up to me! I mean I'm sure there's probably a girl out there like that - and shes probably single! But I dunno maybe you'd be better off working out what the constant need for praise is about? But nobody does the same for me... girls never say what i want to hear, when i want to hear it. Seems like they are always too wrapped up in themselves. Guess i'm just being the needy one. So you want a girl to tell you what you want to hear?? You really wouldn't rather hear the truth? Even if it's not what you want to hear? 1
OpheliaSong Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Do you mean like flowery words? Compliments? Telling you how they feel deep down in their hearts?
d0nnivain Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 What specifically do you want? Have you ever told the women you are dating that you want that? When I met my husband he wasn't very affectionate at all. Over time I gradually told him what I wanted / needed / expected: hold my hand, kiss me hello & goodbye; sign cards Love, etc. These aren't huge things but they were different for him. To make me happy he did them.
jphcbpa Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 for you it will probably always be, "no enough or too much of the wrong kind". this sounds more like an issue with you and you need to take your g/f off the hook. how can you love yourself more so that you do not need constant (24/7 your words) attention from a female. you will never be happy until you find out what is missing inside you. no woman on the planet will ever fill this void/hole.
AMusing Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 It seems like you expect your girlfriends to read your mind. Yes, you absolutely deserve an affectionate girlfriend, but you can't blame her if she's not instinctively loving you the way you want. Have you tried telling her what you feel like is lacking from her? Nobody is ever going to automatically say or do exactly the right thing at exactly the right time, which is why communication is so important.
Nikki Sahagin Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I think you should tell your girlfriend that you are an affectionate/tactile person and that you would like more examples of affection. She might be holding back because she doesn't want to seem needy OR she simply may not be as affectionate and assume you are the same. Just tell her and all will be well. I've always been with veryyyyyyy affectionate men
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