Boyfriend chatting with other girls?

[Toddbt12y1]

It is justice, if they find this "one" and they end up getting cheated on. Granted, it is childish to wish such a thing, and I am not. But, would be a justice...

[Archanaart]

I agree. No excuse will serve. What an admirable lady you are. I like this. Be strong...how well have you been taught!

 

Still, I am sorry this has happened to you. Least it did before any marriages or things of such nature.

 

Thank you the kind words and sharing your experience with your ex. I was raised by strong women and told not to let a man bring me down and to take care of myself.

 

I'm sorry you are going through this:( You sound like you're an honest loyal girl who simply wants the same from your man.

 

Men can really love a girl and not physically cheat, and they can thik this girl is diffrent to any girl they have ever met. They can miss them when they are apart. They can want to spend most of their time together with this girl. They can move in with them and want to be serious with this girl.

 

Guys can grow to love girls, without feeling head over heals in love with them. They can grow super attached to a girl they wat to spend most of the time with.

 

Look, my ex loved me very much. To this day, neither of us have found anyone who makes us laugh the way we did with each other. We honestly loved spending most of our time together up until the very end.

We were great friends and a great match; except he just wasn't in love with me the way a man needs to be, in order to be a life partner to someone.

Just because we are not the 'one' for them, it doesn't mean we are not a very specal person to them.

 

I think both you and him should be free to find the right people.

 

I KNOW it is WAY more desirable to just let this slide and let him tell you to please give you another chance.

 

It is EASY to continue in your comfort zone.

 

It is EASY to avoid the pain of losing him.

 

Deep down, I KNOW you want a guy who is totally, undeniably crazy in love with you, to the point where he does NOT EVER seek out " other women" online.

 

I can PROMISE you... Only guys who are wired differently and prefer open relatonships, actually can love a girl to their best ablities yet talk to other girls/hook up with others.

 

In the VAST majority of cases, a man will NOT talk to other women in that way, once tey find the "one".

 

You are some ones "one". He will find his "one" if you do not leave him. Only, it will proably take a while and you will be even more attached to him by the time he realises that you're not "it" for him.

 

What I am saying is 100% true. Men are simple. Yet they often have relationships with girls who they do not fall head over heals in love with.

It takes a long time to find "that girl", and most guys I know just end up wwith a girl who they ARE into and who they DO love, but who they are not IN love with in the deepest sense.

 

I speak from experience and from observing a lot of men.

 

 

...My good friend met a guy who was into sleeping around most weekends. The second he got with her, everything changed. Things shift whe a man feels compelled to put you above his own needs. It happens when they start to fall in love.

He easily got with her and with NO Urge to revert back to his player lifestyle.

 

My ex and your bf will meet a girl one day, and they will NEVER go onlie seeking out girls. Because they will be in love with this girl.

 

We too, can go on to meet out equivalent. We really can:)

 

I really appreciate that you shared your experience with me.

 

I understand the love and laughter you can have with someone. You think the world of them and then something like this happens. I've lost trust and just want to yell at him.

 

I'm glad I took the time today to find this site and find him on it. Or else it would've gone on for a long time without me noticing.

 

He lost a great girl (I don't mean to exaggerate my personality or say I'm perfect).

 

I'm trying to stay strong and positive but the tears and sadness comes and goes.

 

It's going to be a long healing process.

Edited November 11, 2013 by Archanaart

[Archanaart]

Wow now he has the audacity to ask why I didn't speak to him when he was here and why I waited?

 

I simply needed to confirm my suspicions and catch him

[Toddbt12y1]

Wow now he has the audacity to ask why I didn't speak to him when he was here and why I waited?

 

I simply needed to confirm my suspicions and catch him

 

Tell him. You owe him no explanation. He didn't give you one. You do not owe a cheat anything.

 

Or just tell em it's over. To go screw off

[Archanaart]

Tell him. You owe him no explanation. He didn't give you one. You do not owe a cheat anything.

 

Or just tell em it's over. To go screw off

 

I appreciate you helping me through this. I've never had to deal with anything like this till now. So I am a bit lost.

 

I've said goodbye twice now and he won't take no for an answer.

 

So I will be resorting to NC for the time being. We will need to talk later to return items of each other's although I'm fine with not getting my stuff back lol

[Toddbt12y1]

Good idea. NC him and get this stuff out of the way. Then tell him to never bother you again. Block his number and all forms of contact. If he does keep it up, make a threat of an order from the law against him.

 

He will pitch a fit to come back, but, it will end quickly. Trust me, I was foolish enough, despite hints and more, and kept taking her back out of silly love and false promises. Never works.

 

I am always glad to help I know what it's like....you needn't travel this road alone.

[Leigh 87]

I am so sorry you're feeling this way:( It just plain hurts.

 

I am REALLY hopig that you are NOT like most women who come here, asing for advice about a cheating partner, only to ignore everyone and just smooh things over with him:sick:

 

You REALLY do sound like you have enough self respect to leave. Or, at least you WANT that for yourself.

 

 

My ex and I still miss our laughing together, we have never laughed so much in our lives with any other person. Besides each other:(

 

It was super upsetting for us both. We missed each other terribly. We still DO.

 

He is happy with the woman of his dreams now; a super model who cares for the disabled and has a genius IQ and is ten years younger than me.

 

I am geuinely happy he found such a wonderful woman, and I am sure he will be much happier with a girl he is actually in love with than he ever was with me.

 

He has stressed to me that he MISSES laughing so much with me, but that the most fun person to be with is not always the one you will fall madly in love with, sadly:(

 

 

 

Look, we were together 2,5 years and I have moved on almost. We broke up last May. I have already fallen hard for 2 or 3 new guys. Life does go on:)

 

 

See support in the break up section or PM me or other members privately if you want further support.

 

We have all been there, and we have manged to be OKAY after losing a person who we were so in love with.

 

Going through this will make you SO Much happier in a couple of months from now, once you realise " yay, I am now free to find a guy who is crazy about me and won't do this to me"

[winny]

I also had similar experience once. The guy was chatting with random girls on FaceBook.

Ended it. He never accepted his fault. Tried to make me feel guilty. But I had enough proof.

No guy who is really in love with you will try to make "friends" with girls online.

Dont waste a single moment on him. Rather use it to find the guy who is the one for you. Good luck. Stay strong.

[d0nnivain]

Could you explain what this site does a little more? I'm not sure about it at all.

 

 

This is what I READ. I don't know for sure but supposedly when you sign up you give the website your email for example: archanaart@ gmail dot com. Badoo supposedly goes into your email account & looks at your contacts there & reads the info. Then it sells the data it gathered to others so you get spammed by all sorts of folks.