Should I stay or go

[lovesgrind]

Hi everyone, I met my girlfriend about 9 months ago. We waited 3 months before considering ourselves in a relationship and so it has now been 6 months since we've been together. Details about her are that she is living with her parents and older sister. She has a young son is 22 and unfortunately still married to the father of her baby but is expecting a divorce. He knows that we are a couple and is okay with it because he is doing his own thing with his new girlfriend. Also this girl has done more for me than any other girlfriend I've had. As you would expect, everything in the beginning was incredible. Sex was frequent(often initiated by her), she took me out on dates, she would ditch hanging out with her friends to see me, and even wrote me a love poem.

 

Lately she has been acting strange. I believe her interest has dropped because we rarely have sex, she won't touch me, verbalize her feelings(say "I love you"), I have to initiate all physical contact, but she still calls me regularly(but not as frequent) and she won't turn me down when I go to kiss her. This has been going on for two weeks now. She is starting to criticize me a lot more for things she used to thing were cute. I tried to tell her she was beautiful and criticized me for it saying I was being too cliché. She still spends time with me but where is the spark in our relationship? I'm not happy. I feel like I'm too good of a guy for her. I'm 25. I don't have kids and I've never been married. Most guys like me would have headed for open waters as soon as she said that she had a kid. I have been investing in her even though she has a husband lurking around.

 

I'm at the point where I don't want to be with her. I feel like her interest level is in the 60s since she is still calling me, kissing me, criticizing me for petty things, but not trying to start fights. I feel taken for granted and that she really doesn't deserve me. I honestly do a lot. She has considered me her best boyfriend. I know that I have done more for her and her son that the kid's father who she barely even tries to spend time with his kid.

 

I feel like she deserves all of this without me. She was getting everything she deserved before we met. She is a woman who is very unappreciative and takes good men for granted. Things were amazing in the beginning but now I wondering if she is worth being with. I am on my way out and I feel my romantic feelings for her are nearly gone if not already.

 

Please help me, I don't know what to do. She is a good girl she has just been acting off lately. I tried to talk to her about last night at her house but she said everything was fine between us but I know it's not. I'm trying to keep my distance until I have her completely out of my system. She will call me religiously if I stop answering my phone or responding to texts. It gets annoying. Then when I finally call her back she just tells me she was blowing my phone up because she was "concerned about my safety". I can't do this much longer. She calls like she cares so much but then acts whatever when I talk to her or see her. The relationship isn't really bad but not great. She is supportive of me one minute but then criticizes me the next. The criticizing is lowering my interest and really pushing me away. My friends think I can do better and that she is a good girl but she doesn't deserve me.

 

Thank you all in advance.

[xUnknown]

Hi everyone, I met my girlfriend about 9 months ago. We waited 3 months before considering ourselves in a relationship and so it has now been 6 months since we've been together. Details about her are that she is living with her parents and older sister. She has a young son is 22 and unfortunately still married to the father of her baby but is expecting a divorce. He knows that we are a couple and is okay with it because he is doing his own thing with his new girlfriend. Also this girl has done more for me than any other girlfriend I've had. As you would expect, everything in the beginning was incredible. Sex was frequent(often initiated by her), she took me out on dates, she would ditch hanging out with her friends to see me, and even wrote me a love poem.

 

Lately she has been acting strange. I believe her interest has dropped because we rarely have sex, she won't touch me, verbalize her feelings(say "I love you"), I have to initiate all physical contact, but she still calls me regularly(but not as frequent) and she won't turn me down when I go to kiss her. This has been going on for two weeks now. She is starting to criticize me a lot more for things she used to thing were cute. I tried to tell her she was beautiful and criticized me for it saying I was being too cliché. She still spends time with me but where is the spark in our relationship? I'm not happy. I feel like I'm too good of a guy for her. I'm 25. I don't have kids and I've never been married. Most guys like me would have headed for open waters as soon as she said that she had a kid. I have been investing in her even though she has a husband lurking around.

 

I'm at the point where I don't want to be with her. I feel like her interest level is in the 60s since she is still calling me, kissing me, criticizing me for petty things, but not trying to start fights. I feel taken for granted and that she really doesn't deserve me. I honestly do a lot. She has considered me her best boyfriend. I know that I have done more for her and her son that the kid's father who she barely even tries to spend time with his kid.

 

I feel like she deserves all of this without me. She was getting everything she deserved before we met. She is a woman who is very unappreciative and takes good men for granted. Things were amazing in the beginning but now I wondering if she is worth being with. I am on my way out and I feel my romantic feelings for her are nearly gone if not already.

 

Please help me, I don't know what to do. She is a good girl she has just been acting off lately. I tried to talk to her about last night at her house but she said everything was fine between us but I know it's not. I'm trying to keep my distance until I have her completely out of my system. She will call me religiously if I stop answering my phone or responding to texts. It gets annoying. Then when I finally call her back she just tells me she was blowing my phone up because she was "concerned about my safety". I can't do this much longer. She calls like she cares so much but then acts whatever when I talk to her or see her. The relationship isn't really bad but not great. She is supportive of me one minute but then criticizes me the next. The criticizing is lowering my interest and really pushing me away. My friends think I can do better and that she is a good girl but she doesn't deserve me.

 

Thank you all in advance.

Sounds like your mind is already made up man. Go with your gut.

[lovesgrind]

Sounds like your mind is already made up man. Go with your gut.

 

Honestly... I'm confused... I'm trying to holds on because she's a good girl but I feel the relationship is declining...