Ftheeastcoast Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Alright, I'm thinking way to much and I need to just get it off my chest. We dated 2.5 years and we made exceptional effort to stay together throughout. We met abroad, dated long distance, she tranfered schools for me and we lived together happily for over a year. She was my best friend, and we were completely committed to the long term. So what happened? Honestly, I couldn't have explained it correctly until I read the GIGS thread. It was practically word for word what happened. We let our relationship get stale and the next logical step in our relationship was a big one for our age. I actually ended the relationship but she was truly the dumper. It was the biggest shock in my life. Being in a new city on my own, I knew I was the only person that could save me. I threw my hesitation in life out the window and I started living. I picked up as many new things as I could in two weeks. I joined a martial arts studio, started taking tango lessons, joined a rec. sports league, committed to practicing my guitar and made more effort at work to connect with people. These were the best decisions I've made. I've had some contact with my ex. We've both initiated. At first it was rehashing the same crap. I thought it was stupid we were apart and while she didn't disagree, her actions in our last week together severely damaged her identity and she couldn't be with anyone. She eventually apologized for it and said she can't stop regretting it. She told me I was a better significant other. I deleted her from FB, trying to move on and she re-added me a few days later. I haven't spoken to her for three weeks now and I have no intention initiating. The only way she comes back is on her own accord. I truly feel like we have all the making of getting back together, but I can only control myself and continue growing. I think that if we both learn from our time apart, we could be much stronger as a couple. Sometimes it's pretty hard to deal with being as alone as I am. I've built a solid life here, but now that I'm in the real world, it's incredibly hard to truly be close with that many people.
me85 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Kudos to you! Same thing happened to me. I initiated the break up but he was truly the dumper. I miss him. Want him back but he's moving on & wanting to flirt/date other girls. I know this because he started liking a girls profile pictures once he deleting me from his FB. It hurt because 2 weeks ago he was saying we were meant to be. Now he says the opposite & has no real remorse for moving on so quickly (I'm guessing because he has found another toy to play with and doesn't need me anymore) Forget the run around and back and forth. You are doing the right thing and you inspire me to let go and do the right thing too. So thanks and stay strong!
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