bigred0489 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Some of you may have seen my post here last week about dating a girl that I thought was out of my league. The date went well and we're hopefully meeting up again soon. I have a few questions now: If you agree to meet someone, is there usually an interest in that person? The texts were flowing for the first few days, but after Thursday (the morning I left her house after our date), they have totally dwindled. I think I've had a message from her maybe once or twice since thursday night. Is this normal? Her work schedule is horrible, I asked her if she wanted to meet again and she said yes, I asked her if she fancied a drive for ice cream and she said that sounds good. As for when - I don't know. She thinks she has an early finish soon but that's as much commitment as she's given me. Again, how would you read this? She was the one that originally pursued me, asking a mutual friend at a party who I was and trying to get her to introduce us. I'm just having a very difficult time trying to read her. All the girls I've dated in the past have made a lot of effort and I've never had an issue knowing that they are interested. I've met someone that I actually really like and now its me struggling to understand! Any advice or tips would be appreciated!
d0nnivain Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 You have slept with this woman twice now. Stop texting her. Man up & call her. Yes, she is interested Plan & offer an actual date with a time & activity,
jba10582 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 You have slept with this woman twice now. Stop texting her. Man up & call her. Yes, she is interested Plan & offer an actual date with a time & activity, communicate with her in all ways including text, especially if your work/life schedule allows. your face to face time and experiences become more meaningful, that I agree. I just don't get the loveshack dislike of text as a form of communication, as everyone situation is different.
Author bigred0489 Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 You have slept with this woman twice now. Stop texting her. Man up & call her. Yes, she is interested Plan & offer an actual date with a time & activity, We can't plan anything concrete because of her work hours, she "thinks" she'll have an early finish soon. communicate with her in all ways including text, especially if your work/life schedule allows. your face to face time and experiences become more meaningful, that I agree. I just don't get the loveshack dislike of text as a form of communication, as everyone situation is different. I agree, I think nowadays, texting is probably the easiest and best form of communication for a majority of people, it certainly is for me. I just feel that if she were interested, she would be making more of an effort. More communication, more available so to speak. She has said that she thinks she'll be free this week some day. Should I just wait to hear from her? I don't want to harass her, but at the same time I don't want her to forget about me...
Uwaae Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 You probably wont be with her for long, because youre putting her on the pedestal. My advice. Do your own thing, have your own fun, and just factor her in your life... its that easy 1
Author bigred0489 Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 You probably wont be with her for long, because youre putting her on the pedestal. My advice. Do your own thing, have your own fun, and just factor her in your life... its that easy This. Don't get so stressed over one girl. Plenty more out there. It's certainly not deliberate. I think I finally found a woman that I want to get to know, I've met a few girls over the past 6-8 months but I've not been at all fussed when the conversations ceased. I mean she agreed to meet again, but there's no real communication anymore. The last time we exchanged a few messages properly was Thursday morning after I left her place. As for the next date? She's "sure she has a an early finish one afternoon :)". But when? Do I just assume that she'll get in touch when she knows when she's available? Is it normal for there to be little communication between two people in between dates? My past relationships were full of communication in between, but it's been years since I've been in this situation!
soccerrprp Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I can't help thinking that b/c she has lessened her communication that you now find her more intriguing, a challenge, perhaps? Just a thought.
Author bigred0489 Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 I can't help thinking that b/c she has lessened her communication that you now find her more intriguing, a challenge, perhaps? Just a thought. Quite possibly. In all honesty, she was already a challenge purely because she's a fantastic person, in both looks and personality. Having done some reading, I'm totally conflicted as to whether or not I should fire her a message along the lines of "hope work isn't too bad, looking forward to seeing you again" or waiting to see if she gets in touch first re a day she can actually meet.
Lansing Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I suggest you wait it out or touch base with her in a day or two and ask her out again.. If you text her that "hope work is going well" and she doesn't respond you will be bummed out.. Just get her out on a date again and stop being so reactive.
Addison312 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Try making a concrete plan and asking, I.e. "Let me take you to this really great ice cream place Thursday at 7, or when you're off work." And if you don't get a sure answer, you know where you stand. If I received something like that where I was being asked to commit to something specific, given I was interested, I'd say yes/give another specific time that would work better.
Author bigred0489 Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 I suggest you wait it out or touch base with her in a day or two and ask her out again.. If you text her that "hope work is going well" and she doesn't respond you will be bummed out.. Just get her out on a date again and stop being so reactive. I've managed to show restraint so far and not sent anything since Saturday. I want to get her out on a date, believe me I do! Which is why waiting for her to let me know when she's free is so difficult. Surely she know's by now what her work schedule is like... Try making a concrete plan and asking, I.e. "Let me take you to this really great ice cream place Thursday at 7, or when you're off work." And if you don't get a sure answer, you know where you stand. If I received something like that where I was being asked to commit to something specific, given I was interested, I'd say yes/give another specific time that would work better. While that makes a lot of sense, my problems are: a) although she has said yes, she's busy with work and "thinks" she'll have an early finish soon; and b) I'm trying hard to avoid getting in touch too often, I want to get in touch again, but don't want to be bummed out by a negative response or no response, and feel like she should be letting me know based on what she has already said...
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