windybunny Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Can you tell us a little bit about your past experiences? (As in how did you end up with your past girlfriends)?
Author Biscous Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 Can you tell us a little bit about your past experiences? (As in how did you end up with your past girlfriends)? Sure. I'm a bit of a late bloomer when it comes to dating. It took me a few years to get out of my shell. Anyways in college I dated a girl that was on my floor. We were friends first, she eventually moved back home to do her graduate. Tall Hatian girl, very smart, crazy at math. I liked her personality a lot. Last ex I met her randomly when I was 27, she was 21. I actually met her when I was living in Atlanta and just sat and talked with her for two hours. We somehow clicked very rapidly, but I made her every comfortable with me. I do have some friends that feel like they can expose themselves to be and be really comfortable. Two days later we met up and that was that. A rocky relationship. In terms of her being my type..maybe not so much I don't know. Tall redhead. She had a few tattoos which I don't usually favor but that was fine. I thought she was a bit young for me too. I was with her for over a year but again that was rocky heh. Not repeating that.
NJtoDC Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 How's I find your pic? When I want to offer my opinion on a post I sometimes read a persons post history to get a fuller idea of who they are, what patterns of topics they focus on, etc. You posted pics on here. A few of them. I agree that, though I tend to be a goatee and bald head love, you do look better with the clean shave. Why not ask the married female friends to keep you in mind if they know a young woman they thing would be a good match for you. Also, living in such a populated area, I would think you could meet all kind of women online. It would be easy to filter down to what you are looking for by build, education, income, relationship type being sought. Because (I assume) you are college educated, do alright financially, are in shape, and are attractive- you would do well. Expand your search to whatever distance you are willing to travel for dating.
Author Biscous Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 How's I find your pic? When I want to offer my opinion on a post I sometimes read a persons post history to get a fuller idea of who they are, what patterns of topics they focus on, etc. You posted pics on here. A few of them. I agree that, though I tend to be a goatee and bald head love, you do look better with the clean shave. Why not ask the married female friends to keep you in mind if they know a young woman they thing would be a good match for you. Also, living in such a populated area, I would think you could meet all kind of women online. It would be easy to filter down to what you are looking for by build, education, income, relationship type being sought. Because (I assume) you are college educated, do alright financially, are in shape, and are attractive- you would do well. Expand your search to whatever distance you are willing to travel for dating. Thank you! The married friend I'm really good friends with is newer to this city than I am but she keeps me in the loop. I will keep trying. Thank you.
Author Biscous Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 Did my dating background help?
antonio1149 Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 My 'type' of girl I would seriously date would probably be one that is a bit preppy, athletic or at least works out since I find personal health crucial in life, dresses nicely, but we are talking casual here, there has to be some sort of commonality with personality. I've dated women with tattoos and different backgrounds but we had things to talk about. I tend to go after women outside my race a lot, especially white, but I've dated black women too and dating intra/interracially doesn't necessarily imply compatibility. No one has addressed the elephant in the room, so what the heck, I'll fall on the sword. For the record, I'm white, liberal, and believe anyone should date and marry who they want. I live in a liberal urban area where there are lots of African-Americans and I've dated all races. You like women who are preppy, sophisticated, educated, good career, dress well, "classy" (no smoking/tats). You are black, and have a preference for white women. You also live in Texas. IMO, many if not most of the white women in the South who fit your target demographic (preppy, educated, etc.) will tend to be somewhat conservative and want to be with white guys. Therefore, I think you might be fishing from a very small pond. On other hand, black women are always complaining about the shortage of quality, professional, responsible black men. Certain white women might see you as attractive and successful but that door may be closed due to ingrained racial attitudes, family influence, or whatever. Amongst black women, though, you would probably be seen as a superstar. If I were you I think I would be taking a more serious look at the top-quality black women in the area. You said you're open to that, though it might not be your preference, but you could probably attract the the highest quality women in that community. If you do want to continue exploring interracial dating, I'd try running in circles that are a little more artsy/bohemian/progressive, as they tend to include people who are more open-minded. The down side there is you might find women who don't dress as nicely or have as good a career, or who wear more tattoos than you're comfortable with. A more drastic option is to just leave the South and relocate to a Northern urban area with more progressive attitudes in general. 1
Author Biscous Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 There's even less black women here that fit the bill heh. Like I said the brand thing about me. It gives me a bit of disdain because I know I'm a good catch and attractive, but my race is an issue even though I'm on par or better with some of my white counterparts? I do wonder why for example my ex thought it was good to go back to an ex that was an ex felon and said nasty things about her and interfered with our relationship. He was white FYI. Also I wonder why, even though I tried, I never met her father. All in the past now but I'm not the only person who has experienced those things. You have a point which is why I considered relocating back to Virginia for example near the DC area. I feel I'd do well there. Or somewhere like California or New York. Really right now I'm trying to make the best of my situation and see if there's something I can improve or go to other locations to find someone I'm more compatible with.
FitChick Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 How about moving to Atlanta? Lots of successful black women there I would think. Might be a little more competition from successful black men, but far less than from white men.
Author Biscous Posted November 11, 2013 Author Posted November 11, 2013 How about moving to Atlanta? Lots of successful black women there I would think. Might be a little more competition from successful black men, but far less than from white men. Yeah. I moved to Texas from Atlanta lol. Lived there for 9 years
Author Biscous Posted April 6, 2014 Author Posted April 6, 2014 I'm dating a girl that likes my style, but she isn't exactly my type and I'd like more options. Still considering moving. Kinda crazy seeing guys that seem to put half into improving themselves and they have easier times with women and women look at me weird or something.
Jon Tenzo Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I'm dating a girl that likes my style, but she isn't exactly my type and I'd like more options. Still considering moving. Kinda crazy seeing guys that seem to put half into improving themselves and they have easier times with women and women look at me weird or something. Start packing your bags. And definitely think Internationally.
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