bulls42 Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 ok quick story... I met this girl playing soccer with her on Friday night. She was new to our team and when we were about to start I saw her looking at me and smiling then kinda of looked away. Later on we started on the bench together to start second half and she said to me "your really fast". Next, we started talking and making small talk and then I had to go into the game and then she went on the field later. We talked a little as far as soccer terms go during the game saying sorry to each other for missing passes to one another. So at the end of the game we were getting ready to leave and she grabbed her stuff and I was like hey whats your name? And she was like Alex then grabbed her stuff and went to bathroom. Later on I was with my teammates saying goodbye and again I saw her in another room next to the field looking at me then looked away. So today I asked this girl Christina what was that girls name we played with Friday and she said Alex and then the last name. So over course I looked her up and found her on Facebook...so do I message her and tell her I wanted to get her number after the game Friday or don't say anything? I've never done Facebook friend request for phone number I need any advice on it? Good? Bad? No, don't do it? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 First I'd be her FB friend. Hopefully you will get to see her at another game & then you ask for a # IRL. If not make a positive post on her wall about her soccer skills. Then send a PM offering to practice passing or some other socceer skill & ask for the phone # so you can set up the meet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bulls42 Posted November 10, 2013 Author Share Posted November 10, 2013 i have another game friday but dont know if shell b there or not? should i wait to facebook friend her until friday or do it now? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 Send the FB friend request now but don't panic if she doesn't grant it immediately. Is your profile pic your face so she knows who you are? Link to post Share on other sites
beyond Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 ok quick story... I met this girl playing soccer with her on Friday night. She was new to our team and when we were about to start I saw her looking at me and smiling then kinda of looked away. Later on we started on the bench together to start second half and she said to me "your really fast". Next, we started talking and making small talk and then I had to go into the game and then she went on the field later. We talked a little as far as soccer terms go during the game saying sorry to each other for missing passes to one another. So at the end of the game we were getting ready to leave and she grabbed her stuff and I was like hey whats your name? And she was like Alex then grabbed her stuff and went to bathroom. Later on I was with my teammates saying goodbye and again I saw her in another room next to the field looking at me then looked away. So today I asked this girl Christina what was that girls name we played with Friday and she said Alex and then the last name. So over course I looked her up and found her on Facebook...so do I message her and tell her I wanted to get her number after the game Friday or don't say anything? I've never done Facebook friend request for phone number I need any advice on it? Good? Bad? No, don't do it? This is so cute! I think these things are always best to do in person, so I would suggest waiting until Friday and asking her out/ asking for her number then. If you go the facebook route (which I don't know that much about), what if she doesn't reply/accept you as a friend. You won't know if she just hasn't looked at her face book or if she doesn't want to accept you - which makes it really awkward if you do see her again. From everything you say, she likes you, so ask her out in person. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author bulls42 Posted November 10, 2013 Author Share Posted November 10, 2013 but if not then go to facebook and wait for her to accept my friend request correct? Link to post Share on other sites
winny Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 i would say send her a friends request and also message her saying - hey we met earlier... hope u remember... n i was thinking if we can be friends... if u r ok then plz accept the friends request. if she does accept then... speak to her for a while to see if u still like her... n then ask for her number... good luck.. Link to post Share on other sites
beyond Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 i would say send her a friends request and also message her saying - hey we met earlier... hope u remember... n i was thinking if we can be friends... if u r ok then plz accept the friends request. if she does accept then... speak to her for a while to see if u still like her... n then ask for her number... good luck.. Sounds too apologetic, not confident and don't use text speak! Op - wait to do it in person on Friday. Is there anyway of knowing what matches she will attend - do they put lists up? Would Christina know? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bulls42 Posted November 10, 2013 Author Share Posted November 10, 2013 no idea if shell b there i found her facebook though just in case if she is there ill just ask her if not ill try on facebook what about asking cristina for her number straight up if she isnt there? Link to post Share on other sites
winny Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 Do not say or do that! Telling a girl you like that you want to be her "Gay Best Friend" in barely understandable "texting english" would make you the Messiah of Morons! Ok I am a girl and that would work perfectly for me. Whenever a guy asks a gal to be friends... we already know what he wants... And he has not even spoken to her properly... so how does he know that he himself likes her... ? Link to post Share on other sites
winny Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 Sounds too apologetic, not confident and don't use text speak! Op - wait to do it in person on Friday. Is there anyway of knowing what matches she will attend - do they put lists up? Would Christina know? haha.. yes i guess a bit apologetic... what i was trying to say is.. be honest n direct without being offensive or too pushy... Link to post Share on other sites
beyond Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 haha.. yes i guess a bit apologetic... what i was trying to say is.. be honest n direct without being offensive or too pushy... Ah, makes sense now I see that you are female! I get what you are saying but, be honest, as females we THINK we want that, but actually we want the more direct confident approach. Of course, I agree with not being offensive though. Link to post Share on other sites
beyond Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 What is wrong with... After the game I am going to get a cup of coffee / drink and would love for you to join me. It's honest, direct, no offensive or pushy. Yep, this - perfect. Link to post Share on other sites
beyond Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 no idea if shell b there i found her facebook though just in case if she is there ill just ask her if not ill try on facebook what about asking cristina for her number straight up if she isnt there? Yes, get her number from Cristina if she is not there on Friday and call her. Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 What do you gain by not adding her?? Gotta be in it to win it lad! I personally wouldn't ask her for her number in the first message, i'd start with something simple... maybe just a "remember me?" or maybe a little flirty, err, "how's my 3rd favourite new girl on the footie team? ;-)" .....That guarantees a reply cause no girl can resist asking why she's not your first Just build up your communication a bit then you can ask her for her number (and your more likely to get it) Link to post Share on other sites
Author bulls42 Posted November 11, 2013 Author Share Posted November 11, 2013 so people agree to wait for her to ask in person? if not then go to facebook? Link to post Share on other sites
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