What do you guys think about dating younger?

[todreaminblue]

Never dated younger....even though younger guys are often the ones to come up to me when i am out dancing......i have a young heart......the sensible side sees though most young guys are not assertive enough too fickle......and play games..not ready to settle down and i am not into casual sex

 

i have only ever dated older and not been attracted to younger guys i have sons in their twenties.....and i am a grandmother with a tribe of my own children ...young guys when they do want to settle down will be only disappointed in me as i cannot have more kids.....it seems a little unfair as i feel every guy normally wants to have their own kids....and should have that pleasure of holding a mini them its a beautiful and life changing experience ...never the same again i feel........older guys are more likely to have their own children

 

 

that is where i think the biggest drawback is for a younger guy dating an older woman more so forties......than thirties....is the inability to give a guy a child of his own...women however are having babies later in life....personally i cant....i could adopt or foster as an option, i would adopt another tribe of kids if i could financially...i already have the neighbourhood kids come.and one day want to travel the world helping kids who are disadvantaged or abused..i love children......it isnt the same fro a guy though to look after another guys child.......or to follow my dreams and aspirations.....a young at heart guy would be cool because then he would be able to keep up...smilin.....most older guys would nto want to drop anchor as readily as i would later in life......i am however still raising my own children or attempting to when they let me

 

there is a stigma attached to the younger guy older woman scenario i dont like the word cougar (makes women out to be sexual predators) and it takes an assertive guy with a firm sense of knowing what he wants and firm sense of self as an individual

 

 

i dont want to be dominant over a guy i feel sometimes i would be over a younger man....even when i was much younger....... i like assertive disciplined men who have a calm and rational approach to life....to counteract my dreamy heart and head.......i need a guy who will tell me how it is without cruelty...but strength,conviction(passion) and assertiveness.....i have not met a young guy yet who doesn't sway from being aggressive or too shy or too game playing tactics ....that i see through.....no balance in the middle

 

so even though for the first time i am attracted to a younger guy i dont think that he or anyone else around his age would or should be with me and my family.....he will make a brilliant father one day however hopefully soon ....because he is missing out on sharing that side of him........he deserves that chance.......thats how i feel about younger men....they deserve a chance to create families of their own.......a younger guy would have to convince me that isnt what he wanted......i would have to believe it 100 per cent....but....in saying that a few years down the track who si to say he wouldnt change his mind....and break my heart

[melodymatters]

In answer to your question, first I would like to thank Hokie and say that I agree 100 % !

 

See, all people are different. I am TINY, I own a theatre that preforms for children every weekend, so Sat & Sun I'm dressed up like an elf or a princess or something ! I am one of those people who bounce off the walls, and due to my size and energy level have a very young " vibe". My husband grew up tough, poor, and a lot of hard things happened to him at a young age. His job requires him to be up at 3 am, so he reliably goes to bed at 8pm every night. He doesn't drink and loves the concept of marriage, we are both naturally homebodies. He is also as I mentioned above 6'6 with a bushy beard and is guessed at 35 usually while I'm guessed at 38:)

 

He pays most of the bills so no sugar momma here ! We both are mellow, nice, happy people who work hard and are highly functioning, our goals and priorities are the same.

 

Believe me the first month after he would go to sleep I would have loooong discussions with myself in the bathroom mirror, which were basically " He's a great guy and you two are falling deeply in love, so while this " birth certificate thing" is undeniably a bit crazy, you need to make a decision NOW"

 

It was the best decision I have ever made. Is there chance that when my looks fade, so will his attraction to me ? Sure, but doesn't that happen in same age relationships ALL OF THE TIME ? Plus I lost two of my very closest people at ages 24, and 19 respectively, so I know youth is no guarantee of a long and happy life/relationship.

 

Go on one date and report back ! Good luck !

[StanMusial]

So I was out having drinks with my friend last night and it's always a topic of conversation between us that NO GUYS ever approach us. Never. We don't understand what the problem is.

 

So as the night went on a couple of guys did come over, and started talking to us but we learned they were 24. (Friend and I are 29, but we do both look much younger than our age. We are usually pegged for 22.)

 

Even the guys we were talking to (who were actually from out of NY state) didn't believe us when we said no one ever approaches us. I'm not sure if it's a NYC thing or what.

 

So one of the guys and I actually were talking for a while and he gave me his number and said that if I ever wanted to grab drinks or dinner, I should message him.

 

There is a HUGE part of me that wouldn't ever reach out due to his age. The fact that I remember being that age and not wanting to really settle, not really knowing myself...

 

And then there's a part of me that actually was agreeing with some of the logic my friend was saying. How younger guys are actually looking for something real, meanwhile the older 20's and 30's guys who are single, have something wrong with them or are just the playboys... because if you look around, people are getting engaged mid-20's, married by late 20s.

 

I myself am not ready to settle or be married, but what do you guys think about dating younger? I can understand an older guy dating a younger woman, but I feel like the older woman/younger man still has a stigma attached to it.

 

You never really said if you actually liked the guy or not. You don't seem like you're looking for "the one" per se so what would it hurt to go out with him?

[KatZee]

You never really said if you actually liked the guy or not. You don't seem like you're looking for "the one" per se so what would it hurt to go out with him?

 

I mean he was cool to talk to but once he said he was 24 I put him in the "undateable" category, until he said he wanted to take me out to dinner and I was like, "uh what? Don't you think that's weird?"

 

Guys who are my age and older are jaded, and they're all about the FWB game. Myself and all my friends are dealing with it and the conversations we were having all had the same tone to it. Younger guys appreciate you more, younger guys, mid 20's guys are looking for something real, and that he came off genuine and really nice so what would it hurt to go out on one date?

[StanMusial]

I mean he was cool to talk to but once he said he was 24 I put him in the "undateable" category, until he said he wanted to take me out to dinner and I was like, "uh what? Don't you think that's weird?"

 

Guys who are my age and older are jaded, and they're all about the FWB game. Myself and all my friends are dealing with it and the conversations we were having all had the same tone to it. Younger guys appreciate you more, younger guys, mid 20's guys are looking for something real, and that he came off genuine and really nice so what would it hurt to go out on one date?

 

I'm sure that is true for some, let's hope he falls in that category. My advice to you would be don't make an issue of it (like you are currently doing). Put it out of your mind and see what happens.

[FitChick]

This couple has been happily married for a while now and there is a 30+ year age gap. They look like they are the same age. Read what she says about him and especially, toward the end of the article, what he says about their age gap.

 

I agree with her that separate bathrooms make for a happy marriage!

[Leigh 87]

I get with younger guys. It is not big deal.

 

I also get with older guys.

 

Also no big deal. I prefer older guys, a few years older than me. However, when there's chemistry, go for it.

[Leigh 87]

My fiancé is 18 years older than me...it can happen...

 

 

 

wow you have a fiance now? Awesome:)

[USMCHokie]

wow you have a fiance now? Awesome:)

 

Yes. Thanks.

 

And fitchick, there was no thread about it...

[gaius]

Yes. Thanks.

 

And fitchick, there was no thread about it...

Grats man! Always nice to hear good news.

 

See, even more proof. Hope you're calling him already KatZee.

[Emilia]

I don't ignore the age difference but I'm less worried about it than I used to be. I seem to attract men in their 20s and early 30s (I'm 41) and that's what I go with. I like letting my hair down and go a bit nuts with partying, they can be serious with a decent job, etc. It seems to work for the moment and a lot of good men my age are married so... Just rolling with it.

[Kate9292]

In my opinion, significantly older women exist to me only for sex. I couldn't imagine why else I would date them.

 

 

Yet younger ones supposedly are immature, manipulative and play games...

 

Some guys really like digging their own graves...

[Conners]

Ive just turned 22 and my boyfriend is 19, 20 in a few months.

I thought it was weird at first and worried about what others would think, but I am truly in love with him

 

It's funny, my boyfriend before him is 29.. so i dropped 10 years in one go. I thought been with an older guy would be more fun etc but no.. i realised i was never in love with him compared to my current boyfriend

 

Don't always assume that young guys want to have fun, they all go through that "phase" at different times. My boyfriend started off very young with girls so he's over rooting around.

[Emilia]

All girls are immature, manipulative, and play games.

 

Might as well at least have one that is hot (younger is generally hotter).

Maybe it's time to date women. If you can, that is.