johndo1984 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 I really like this girl a lot. I went out with this girl and after the first date, my feeling is telling me am not the only one she dating or seeing. I were correct. Anyhow, when I ask her, she told me that she dating 2 more ppl beside me. but she hasn't fine anyone interested yet.. what should I do? be her friend? continue to talk to her? void her? what would you do.
Kate9292 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 She did nothing wrong. You two aren't in a relationship yet. Up to you what you want to do. Do you really want to be with her? Then go extra mile and outshine all the competition you have by being as awesome you can. If you don't care about her, you can leave her alone.
d0nnivain Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 In the beginning you should expect that new people are dating others besides you. Dating is a numbers game. If you want an exclusive relationship with her, take her on another date & tell her that.
StanMusial Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 I really like this girl a lot. I went out with this girl and after the first date, my feeling is telling me am not the only one she dating or seeing. I were correct. Anyhow, when I ask her, she told me that she dating 2 more ppl beside me. but she hasn't fine anyone interested yet.. what should I do? be her friend? continue to talk to her? void her? what would you do. Find two or three other girls to date and put her in the rotation. You might even like one of the others better than her. Have fun! 1
Author johndo1984 Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 What - do you think she should drop everyone she's been seeing and put all her eggs into ONE basket just because you spent a few hours on a date with her? Seriously? That's what 'dating' IS - seeing different people to determine who you 'click' with and then buiding a relationship with that person. It's also possible this girl is NOT looking for commitment, but is enjoying playing the field. ASK her what she's looking for, then act accordingly. I know that she dating someone else beside me and i DONT expect her to drop everyone and pick me. duh. Am just wonder how the other date feel like when they found out. why she can't tell me upfront? why not tell the other guys that she dating other guys.? I keep my option open too. But I end that before I move to the next one. I just don't date 25 girl and then keep on doing it.
d0nnivain Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 She had no obligation to tell you or anybody else about her dating habits up front. In this day & age you should have assumed you were not the only one. When you asked, she was honest & told you there were other dates.
Grumpybutfun Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Why does no one know what dating means anymore? Dating is going out, hanging out, having fun with someone. If you want to date exclusively after a while, you ask if it is mutual. You do not naturally assume that just because someone goes out with you on a few dates, they are your gf/bf. You should continue going out with her and see other people unless you connect somewhere down the line in a meaningful way and decide you both want to date exclusively. SMH Grumps 1
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