dollchick Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 So I met this guy on an online dating site. We talked non stop for a week and decided to meet up for some coffee. Well we met and sat and talked for an hour. As soon as I got home I had a text from him asking if I enjoyed myself as much as he did and kept telling me that he really liked me and hoped I would agree to meet up again. I told him I would. He kept texting me everyday after and then one day he wasn't texting as much and he explained that he was sorry but as he is in his final semester in college he is very busy. I didn't hear from him in two days and finally yesterday he texted me asking how I was doing and that his week has been so crazy. Last weekend when he started this, I did text and say that if he lost interest its ok just to say so. He told me he did not lose interest at all,just that school has gotten so busy for him. So my question is, can someone really be that busy? I mean after not texting me for two days he could have just left me alone for good since I didn't text him and it would have been his way out ifnh did lose interest. But I'm not so sure I'm sold on the idea that u can be so busy that u can't even say hello or when I reply to his text he doesn't reply. Very confused.
fujidabruin Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Hey Dollchick, I would not put too much concern towards this guy. You met once and now whatever the 2 of you started is on the backburner. I would suggest going back to entertaining dates from other prospects. If this guy comes back soon then great, if not, then you are already doing your own thing and it is his loss. .....and at this point, he certainly can not expect you to wait around for him 2
NorthEastnik Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Two days? I wish I heard back from any of my recent dating prospects within two days. It's been two WEEKS since I've heard from someone I enjoyed an amazing, four hour first date with. Granted, they're also super busy, but I certainly wouldn't mind if they'd take just one moment to tell me whether they'd like to go out again.
superb Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 I think being too busy to text someone back is complete bull****. So much so that I'd never even use that excuse when avoiding someone because I feel it's terribly insulting. 4
ArcaneLady Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 Yet again, putting my hand up here. Had a similar experience (but we talked for weeks online, shared a lot of experiences, ). Said the same things, wanted to see me again, we kissed, then two brief emails that evening... Nothing since. Nothing. Not so much a "changed my mind/I spoke too soon/I'm too busy. We must have sent nearly 1000 messages and emails to each other then NOTHING. And I'm not a kid, I'm a 42 year old woman and the guy was the same age. This is why I say people need to be honest and upfront! Cut playing dating games and mucking around! Because THIS is what happens! This guy should just say he's interested or you ask him outright. Dating culture like this is never going to change unless we all start being more honest. 2
winny Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 So I met this guy on an online dating site. We talked non stop for a week and decided to meet up for some coffee. Well we met and sat and talked for an hour. As soon as I got home I had a text from him asking if I enjoyed myself as much as he did and kept telling me that he really liked me and hoped I would agree to meet up again. I told him I would. He kept texting me everyday after and then one day he wasn't texting as much and he explained that he was sorry but as he is in his final semester in college he is very busy. I didn't hear from him in two days and finally yesterday he texted me asking how I was doing and that his week has been so crazy. Last weekend when he started this, I did text and say that if he lost interest its ok just to say so. He told me he did not lose interest at all,just that school has gotten so busy for him. So my question is, can someone really be that busy? I mean after not texting me for two days he could have just left me alone for good since I didn't text him and it would have been his way out ifnh did lose interest. But I'm not so sure I'm sold on the idea that u can be so busy that u can't even say hello or when I reply to his text he doesn't reply. Very confused. I think your expectation from him is to text/talk regularly. So tell him same directly. That if he feels he is so busy that he cannot do it then better he stop completely. I guess u liked him a bit... n when we do so we keep hope alive n wait for things to change... but anything hardly ever changes... Start talking to other prospective dates.. u will have less time to worry about this guy then 1
Uwaae Posted November 11, 2013 Posted November 11, 2013 You should never see that guy again. If you over think stuff like this all the time, the guy has dodged a bullet
FitChick Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 If he is interested, he will contact. He may have met someone else. You should still be online looking to meet other men. Maybe if he sees you online he will contact you. No guarantees! 1
Lansing Posted November 13, 2013 Posted November 13, 2013 I think you are overreacting! He did contact you, he was busy with school, etc. I don't think you should expect someone to have to drop something to contact you. If I am focussed on a particular project/school/etc maybe I just don't feel like initiating contact with someone because one text could lead to texting back and forth and distracting me from my project. It isn't like he ignored one of your messages or anything. I say give it time. Your worrying might just ruin things.
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