whatwhit Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Hey guys, So I've always heard if you feel like a guy is starting to push you away, or states that they no longer see you as dating potential make them miss you aka just kind of fall off the face of the planet. Has this worked for anyone? Do you guys believe it works?
JustaRegularGuyZ Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 I've actually been chatting to this girl and then I just forgot about her. She recently got a boyfriend too. I stopped talking to her and completely forgot she existed, she msged me a week later with something irrelivant to grab my attention. It worked, I said hi to her.
Author whatwhit Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 Been dating-ish a guy who was at one time pursuing me a lot. Then he kind of just stopped (my fault insecurity got kind of clingy etc). And recently he told me that he likes me but cares about our friendship more. He just got out of a divorce literally as off two days ago but has been separated for two months ( its a long story that requires another post). However, within the month that we've been hanging out to after he said he cares about our friendship more, he still treats me as more than a friend. When we were at a festival last night I asked him if smoking is a deal breaker cause we were surrounded by it and he said yes. I then asked him what are some other deal breakers, and he told me what he looks for. He mentioned family upbringing, and he mentioned how he looks next to a person then said that him and I look good together. When we were dancing last night at a club a guy walked up to him and was like "nice work I approve" (that has nothing to do with the story but I thought it was kind of funny). I am falling for him, and don't really know what to do at this point. I want a relationship, and he wants to date other people.
jba10582 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 depends on how much emotional investment they have in you. i.e. my ex of almost 7 years who i really loved and cared for had stopped contact with me after break-up, I missed her dearly. however, recently a girl i had very little emotional investment tried this and tried to make me jealous. when I congratulated her on finally finding a new guy (as she said) she didn't like it too much. she seemingly fell of the face of the earth (thank god) and then became almost stalkerish and weird by calling with private numbers. so yes and no.
Author whatwhit Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 jba what was your relationship with the girl you werent emotionally avaliable with like? Whats the back story? Was it just a one night stand, and the girl wouldn't leave you alone? Or did ya'll date for a little while, and you just weren't feeling it?
jba10582 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 the background with her was she was a just a FRIEND to me. I knew her through some neighbors. she actually wanted to have sex and I was truly not into her. in all honesty, I was still not over my ex as much as I am now. she had some serious past issues with her family that was a red flag to me especially since I had be seeing a counselor and was consciously recognizing this. i made is VERY clear to her that we were just friends multiple times because i wanted to get back with my ex at the time. i had multiple conversations with one of my female neighbors who warned me about this. in her eyes she may have seen us as dating despite multiple times saying I did not want anything more than a friendship. i had not slept with her because i did not want too. we were hanging out for about a a month and a half. i was happy for her to be gone because she became more and more weird.
StanMusial Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 It helps to run in a serpentine pattern. Does he have a good arm? 1
soccerrprp Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 This would not and does not work with me. If I feel that I need to tell a girl that I am no longer interested, it's b/c I'm no longer interested. No amount of communication or silence will change that. In fact, the silence makes it easier to move on.
veggirl Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 umm Whatwit, that guy is NOT ready to date!! Divorced for TWO days and only separated 2 months???? Find someone AVAILABLE. A guy who is really into you won't need you to play hard to get. What clingy stuff were you doing and after how long? also it doesn't actually sound like you were/are dating? Did you guys you know, go on dates?
Author whatwhit Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 I don't think I was being clingy I never texted him often, always had him initiate contact, never pushed to hang out all the time, or hang out with his friends. He said the fact that I constantly brought up his ex (more times than him) made me clingy. Which was true, I couldn't get over it. His ex wife is a co worker of mine so I see her every week day I've cut down on that part. He also said that the guy is supposed to ask the girl out implying that I pursued a lot of the time. Like I said a WHOLE another post to explain the whole situation. But yes, we have gone on dates...we act very couple-ly while together.
Phantom888 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Hey guys, So I've always heard if you feel like a guy is starting to push you away, or states that they no longer see you as dating potential make them miss you aka just kind of fall off the face of the planet. Has this worked for anyone? Do you guys believe it works? Depends if the guy you want is just as immature as you are. Playing mind games don't work on mature sophisticated men because it's a complete waste of time. Young boys like it because they don't know better. If a woman wants me to miss her, she needs to have qualities that I miss and can't get elsewhere.
Kate9292 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Hey guys, So I've always heard if you feel like a guy is starting to push you away, or states that they no longer see you as dating potential make them miss you aka just kind of fall off the face of the planet. Has this worked for anyone? Do you guys believe it works? IME if a guy doesn't care, he won't even notice. If he does though, he will often chase you hard. Sometimes to the point of desperation. So you kinda can do it as a test if he cares about you at all.
d0nnivain Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 Game playing . . . e.g. disappearing to get his attention is not a good strategy because it's a game. It's not real. Instead before you date, have a life. Be interesting. Do things. Have stuff to talk about when you are with the guy & things to keep you busy regardless of what he's doing.
truth_seeker Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 And recently he told me that he likes me but cares about our friendship more. I agree with the other poster 100%... this is the kiss of death. I used this line on a girl. Why? I wanted her to know in a polite way: "I like you but not in that way." Sure, he'll gladly take sex if he finds you attractive, but love you and want to be in a relationship? Not when he brings up friendship. Just think: when a man brings up being friends with you, it's the same when a woman says to a man she's has a boyfriend when she doesn't. Just an excuse.
Author whatwhit Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 So how should I move forward? Should I start ignoring his texts? He texted me today. When we hang out and he tries to act like a boyfriend/ take me on dates should I decline. Whats the right move here?
d0nnivain Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 what does move forward mean to you? If you want to date him, go out with him. Between times when you see him, do interesting things & keep your self busy.
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