JSS Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Hi all, I work with this girl, have done for the past 10 months or so since she joined where I work, she is around 6 years older than me but still seems interested. In the past couple of months we have been getting much closer than previously.. But I just can't figure her out.. I have started to really like her since we have gotten closer and like i said, cant work out one way or the other if she feels the same. She gives me signs that make me think, yeah shes interested.. such as plenty of smiling, laughing, prolonged eye contact, always willing to do things for me and go out of her way for me, always asking how i am and recently she has started to tease me also (ways which she knows will make me laugh) more often than not she will be the one who starts the conversation , she always seems happy to see me first thing in the morning, a couple of work colleges believe there may be something there but i'm still not sure. We have each others numbers and she was 1st to text me, but here is the thing that gives me the mixed messages .. she takes forever to reply but then when she does reply she doesn't just give the standard few word answer she will give a longer answer than necessary along with a few questions which makes me think she wants to talk more but then takes forever to reply to the next message. (drives me crazy) When I've asked her to meet me in the past 2 weekends she gave the excuse that she had family over and couldn't make that night and now she has said she has "too much on" today couldn't make the specific date. Is she playing with me to feed her ego, or do you reckon there could be something more than that present?
Uwaae Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 How do you react to her? I see nothing wrong with the Texting thing. More info would be needed
Divasu Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 When I've asked her to meet me in the past 2 weekends she gave the excuse that she had family over and couldn't make that night and now she has said she has "too much on" today couldn't make the specific date. Is she playing with me to feed her ego, or do you reckon there could be something more than that present? Do you get a sense that she is avoiding meeting you? You've asked her out now, what, 2-3 times and both times she's declined? Unless I'm on my death bed or very sick (or live hundreds or thousands of miles apart), I will make an effort as much possible to spend time with someone I am romantically interested in. People have busy lives, yes. But, most people tend to interpret 2-3 weeks without seeing someone in a dating context, as non-interest. Especially if the person is not putting forth any effort to do so and/or declining an invitation to do so. That, or, you're asking her out to a venue she's not comfortable with (ie: a naked jello wrestling match, etc.).
JustaRegularGuyZ Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Completely ignore her for a week or so, see how she reacts. Maybe take a week off work and ignore all of her msgers. If she constantly msges you while you are gone, she may be very well interested in you. After that week, ask her out again for a coffee or a beer at any day that she is confortable with, if she ignores you...well then, just forget about her for good. She may just like the attention and your personality, and see you as a friend material.
Author JSS Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 How do you react to her? I see nothing wrong with the Texting thing. More info would be needed How do you react to her? I see nothing wrong with the Texting thing. More info would be needed I always give her a smile and anything i say seems to make her laugh, she seems to love it when i flirt with her but then whenever i ask her to meet me, she seems to use the excuses said above. This is the bit that is making me think.. does she really like me? Surely she would want to spend time with me?
Uwaae Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 I dont know why her texts are driving you crazy. Because youre not with this girl. In fact, this girl could be going out with other guys. Anyway, just ask her to hang out at some place, is she even cares about you as a friend, she'll try to reschedule
Larry Walker Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Hi all, I work with this girl, have done for the past 10 months or so since she joined where I work, she is around 6 years older than me but still seems interested. In the past couple of months we have been getting much closer than previously.. But I just can't figure her out.. I have started to really like her since we have gotten closer and like i said, cant work out one way or the other if she feels the same. She gives me signs that make me think, yeah shes interested.. such as plenty of smiling, laughing, prolonged eye contact, always willing to do things for me and go out of her way for me, always asking how i am and recently she has started to tease me also (ways which she knows will make me laugh) more often than not she will be the one who starts the conversation , she always seems happy to see me first thing in the morning, a couple of work colleges believe there may be something there but i'm still not sure. We have each others numbers and she was 1st to text me, but here is the thing that gives me the mixed messages .. she takes forever to reply but then when she does reply she doesn't just give the standard few word answer she will give a longer answer than necessary along with a few questions which makes me think she wants to talk more but then takes forever to reply to the next message. (drives me crazy) When I've asked her to meet me in the past 2 weekends she gave the excuse that she had family over and couldn't make that night and now she has said she has "too much on" today couldn't make the specific date. Is she playing with me to feed her ego, or do you reckon there could be something more than that present? None of that stuff she is doing means anything. Yes she is playing you. Nothing she does means anything unless you are seeing her on dates and hooking up.
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