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So I'm sat at home on a Saturday night with nothing to do, I had plans to go out tonight but as per my usual luck, it gets cancelled. So now I'm stuck at home with nothing to keep my mind occupied and off my ex.

 

Today is exactly 2 month since she left me, 9th of September was the date and I really don't know how I'm feeling, empty could be the word.

 

I've come so far in my healing over these past 2 months. I've made sure to get out of the house as much as I can and I have been out almost every friday and saturday since the break up and it has helped a lot. Now that I am alone with no plans tonight I have time to reflect back on how far I've come.

 

I'm thinking that my ex is out tonight and will possible end up kissing someone. This thought cropped up every weekend and even though it still bothers me, I just accept the fact that she chose to be single and that's her life. Let her carry on. She'll never find the emotional bond we had with anyone else, she even told me herself she never felt this way about anyone.

 

I've accepted that she left to GIGs, she was only 18, probably wanted to explore and to see if the grass is greener. I haven't heard a word from her since the BU which bothered me so much. How can someone who says they love you so much one day, go to virtually cutting you of out their life with seemingly no hesitation?

 

I still get angry at her for how she left me, but also beginning to accept that we are finished, that chapter in my life is done and will cherish the memories we had. But she turned out to be the girl I never thought she would become. That's life though, it is so unpredictable and you never know what is around the corner.

 

I will never trust anyone but myself from now on. You shouldn't rely on other people for your own happiness. The world is harsh, people are harsh, right now I have to be selfish and put myself first in order fulfill my own desire for happiness. Anyone who is struggling to get over a relationship, you need to accept the fact it is really over, and that they are not coming back. Don't keep your hopes up like I did hoping that they will one day come around. Maybe she will but right now I'm going about my life as if if she won't. I actually hope she doesn't.

 

I don't want to be dealing with her breadcrumbs and have her bringing my healing to a halt. She's gone, she thinks she'll find someone better, good luck to her, I know she won't. Rant over, have a nice evening :)

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Aaron I'm in the same boat, where are you based lets get drunk.

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I know exactly how you feel. It sucks. I wish I could get out but this town is new to me and f'ing tiny, makes it hard to keep busy. Good luck with your progress.

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Aaron I'm in the same boat, where are you based lets get drunk.

 

Haha I'm in in Brum town! Having a drink on my own tonight, I've never actually gotten drunk since my ex left, I don't want to start getting even more emotional that I already was. A few cans of beer of beer will do be good for tonight then got sunday league football tomorrow morning. Woop! lol

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Haha I'm in in Brum town! Having a drink on my own tonight, I've never actually gotten drunk since my ex left, I don't want to start getting even more emotional that I already was. A few cans of beer of beer will do be good for tonight then got sunday league football tomorrow morning. Woop! lol

 

Sounds good mate, pizza beers and a film for me tonight (by myself!!) then playing/watching football all day tomorrow.. Happy days.

 

Stay strong, it's bloody hard but you'll get there,

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Sounds good mate, pizza beers and a film for me tonight (by myself!!) then playing/watching football all day tomorrow.. Happy days.

 

Stay strong, it's bloody hard but you'll get there,

 

I've grown to love playing football so much more since the BU, it's something I'm truly passionate about and enjoy doing. It gives my life a purpose. It was something I kinda neglected when I was with her, oh how I regret it so much. I'm never going to neglect my hobbies for a girl ever again, biggest mistake of my life.

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Wow you just wrote what I feel deep down right now but just couldn't find the right sentences.I was with someone for about 8 months,almost daily talks for hours until about two weeks ago.She said she needed sometime (one week) to think if we should go any further(more serious),after that period she texted me and we talked random stuff a little.Then two days later same thing only 10 minutes on the phone and again suddenly gone.She didn't say a word about her decision these two times.How could someone just leave THAT easily and be THAT indifferent after all this time??I feel like she used me A LOT and everything she ever said was just simple plain lies.And I'm guessing she just went off with another guy when she said she needed sometime to think about us.

Anyway I feel you and I know what you mean.I never did anything to hurt her and maybe was too kind to her and I believe she will regret it someday I know it(she loved me and I loved her and we both knew that),because you don't fix something that's not broken ;-)

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I've grown to love playing football so much more since the BU, it's something I'm truly passionate about and enjoy doing. It gives my life a purpose. It was something I kinda neglected when I was with her, oh how I regret it so much. I'm never going to neglect my hobbies for a girl ever again, biggest mistake of my life.

 

I'm quite the opposite, played all the time when I was with her then since BU nothing! First time playing again tomorrow, not looking forward to the cold haha.

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Aaron and Tyler Durdan (nice username btw hah #thumbsup) - I'm right there with ya. Exactly 1 month ago as of yesterday. It hurts. I got a breadcrumb last monday and tuesday, I responded to the tuesday because it was a car thing that I did/installed for her so I was best knowledgeable about it. I find myself wanting breadcrumbs because I want to know shes thinking about me and on her mind. Uggh, this **** sucks. I know shes not best for me...at least without her changing, but I still miss her and want her back.

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Aaron and Tyler Durdan (nice username btw hah #thumbsup) - I'm right there with ya. Exactly 1 month ago as of yesterday. It hurts. I got a breadcrumb last monday and tuesday, I responded to the tuesday because it was a car thing that I did/installed for her so I was best knowledgeable about it. I find myself wanting breadcrumbs because I want to know shes thinking about me and on her mind. Uggh, this **** sucks. I know shes not best for me...at least without her changing, but I still miss her and want her back.

 

It's only been a month dude, I felt the same as you did last month. I still have that small wish that she did contact me telling me she made a mistake, it would make me feel so much better knowing she regrets it. I would get such an ego boost but taking her back is another question. She would have to prove to me why i should take her back, why she left in the first place and how she has changed (if at all).

 

It's tough for all of us, we just have to ride with the tide sometimes, I'm still not fully healed but I do feel so much better than I did after the first month. I can't wait till next month when it will be 3 months for me. After that, I can truly fully accept it is over and people say 3 months is when it really sinks in that it is over and you can actullay notice the healing, that is if you did everything right such as keeping NC and doing things you love, working out, hobbies etc.

 

If you ever want to talk privately then feel free to message me :)

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It's only been a month dude, I felt the same as you did last month. I still have that small wish that she did contact me telling me she made a mistake, it would make me feel so much better knowing she regrets it. I would get such an ego boost but taking her back is another question. She would have to prove to me why i should take her back, why she left in the first place and how she has changed (if at all).

 

It's tough for all of us, we just have to ride with the tide sometimes, I'm still not fully healed but I do feel so much better than I did after the first month. I can't wait till next month when it will be 3 months for me. After that, I can truly fully accept it is over and people say 3 months is when it really sinks in that it is over and you can actullay notice the healing, that is if you did everything right such as keeping NC and doing things you love, working out, hobbies etc.

 

If you ever want to talk privately then feel free to message me :)

 

I hear ya man. I would absolutely get the ego boost also. I know I wouldn't take her back immediately. I'd want to start dating again, start fresh more or less, have her show me she can work on her communication with me.

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keep up the good work i think one day she will come back i have te same problem as you know, i do beleive they will come back one day but like everyone says you need to heal which yeah we dont like hearing if we are honest but its true then one day when they do come back you can decide what you want you mght even say no thanks because you have someone else or it might work out! and go the full life with her ie marriage kids, grow old. we just dont know but we all need to heal. if you do struggle pm me and we can support each other if needed that goes for anyone! its bloody torture i know!

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Hey man, mine was also 2 months, but today. I didn't even realise until I looked at the time on my pc and noticed the date. 2 months ago it was the last day of my holiday to go and see her in her own country.

 

You can't let yourself think about what they are doing, and easy to say of course, but for me it's always worse at the weekends so even more important to keep busy with anything at all. Having said that, it's not bad to reflect as I believe it helps heal, but there is a difference between reflection and dwelling.

 

I live by my own motto when I'm feeling lonely etc and that is 'No one is ever having as much fun as they pretend to be', it might not always be true but alot of the time you only ever see the good side of someone's life (people don't usually advertise depression etc on facebook).

 

If you wanna talk or anything then feel free to PM but good luck with the rest of the recovery and keep active!

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