Nikki Sahagin Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 BRIEF RECAP: Started seeing a guy in the UK in August. We spoke as friends for 2 months. Bonded fast as we told each other all our problems/heartbreaks/life stories. Quick friendship developed I believe mutually, as well as strong attraction. Met in October and began dating/having a sexual relationship. Had 'the talk' and he explained to me he was confused about what he wanted but wasn't sure he wanted a long term relationship right now. I didn't feel any 'closure' from this as all I got was 'I'm confused, I'm unsure, I don't know'. We 'decided' that we wanted to remain friends because I personally really enjoyed our conversations PRIOR to the sex/dating and I would like to still talk with him. However, after a very brief FB conversation in October, we haven't spoken since. I have been tempted to reach out in a friendly way but I feel like it should be him to do so, as I initiated our last (and only) 'friend' convo. Although it is very possible that he no longer wishes to maintain a friendship, he did say he wanted to, and I am often tempted to speak to him. I stop because my pride/ego tells me 'NO, it should be him'. When I ask women what I should do they all say just send him a message. I asked my brother for a male opinion and he said, 'The ball is in his court. See what he does with it'. The point is, I think about talking to him at least once each day. I don't want to let this friendship go, and I feel quite anxious/stressed at the thought that if I/he don't speak soon, it will fizzle away. BUT, as my brother said, I wonder if the ball is in his court to instigate a conversation and I should leave him to do so? Would it really hurt for me to just send a friendly message? I'm unsure. All I know is this rattles around in my brain at least once a day. Link to post Share on other sites
gothicrose Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 Not in his late 5Os is he? Sounds very similar to my ex and the way he operates... :/ I'd say if he was 'confused' and not really bothering to make an effort with contacting you then forget about him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nikki Sahagin Posted November 9, 2013 Author Share Posted November 9, 2013 Even as friends? And no, he is in his 20's Nice to see it doesn't change at any age though.... Link to post Share on other sites
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