krista28 Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 so..recently i went on a date with aguy from work. i asked him to go out for drinks. when we made plans the first time, he cancelled once. i guess i hadnt contacted him in the right amount of time. so...we went out for drinks, he paid. but proceeded to i guess not think of it as a date..he was constatntly talking about other girls..how girls at work were hot..etcetera..i am a pretty good lookin girl myself..but its like he was talking abotu anyone and everyone. i get the feeling hes a sociopath. anyhow...apparantly my friend warned him against me she said not to sleep with me that i was a good girl...so i went over the other night and hungout with him...he sleeps with me...and then proceeds to not talk to me at all for a week. i promised not to tell anyone what happened ( we know eachother from work part time). so i told my friend about it cuz i was mad that also knows him. she proceeded to text him in angry messaging...and around the same time i got a text from him answering all of the messages i had tried to text him that week. his response was that he was out of town looking for work all week. how hard is it to drop one text message?? so he is now mad at me for telling me friend at work and this is "his life" hes worried about. so basically i am an idiot..the guy wasnt into me..however i am not sure why..i am decent looking...i guess sometimes a guy is just not into you...anyhow...what do i do now...i have to work with this guy..guess i gotta act mature. do you really believe that he was outta town and just hadnt gotten around to texting me..it seemed weird he got back to me right when he found out my friend knew...
d0nnivain Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 It's not hard to drop one text message. He didn't want to. It doesn't matter if he was out of town or not. This man does not want to date you. He talked about other women during your 1st encounter. You concluded he was a sociopath yet something compelled you to sleep with him. Subconsciously I think you did it to "prove" that you were hotter than the other women he talked about. Stop stressing out & learn a few things from these unfortunate events. 1. be wary of dating co-workers because things get awkward when it doesn't work out. 2. If you must blab to your friends, don't tell your new man that you can't keep your mouth shut 3. If your instincts are telling you that a man is a sociopath, don't sleep with him For now, in his presence you have to do your level best to pretend like it never happened. Be polite & professional but leave it alone before you ruin somebody's career.
Phantom888 Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Wait didn't you post this like 3 times already? He is an older guy who used you for sex and is not interested. Why even waste time thinking about his opinions? Just ignore him. Pretend he never existed. This man is toxic to you.
Author krista28 Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 yes donnivain you are correct. not texting me proves he was not interested. I don't know why..im not ugly by a long shot...he even told me he found me attractive..i guess looks aren't the end all be all with likeing someone.
Author krista28 Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 I never did anything to prove anything
Zahara Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Wait didn't you post this like 3 times already? He is an older guy who used you for sex and is not interested. Why even waste time thinking about his opinions? Just ignore him. Pretend he never existed. This man is toxic to you. In 3 weeks she's created about 10 different threads on the same situation, same guy. It's like talking to a brick wall. 1
Author krista28 Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 yes i have and i know what i have to do. i am more scared people are gonna know there was something that happened with us two and i will look like a whore. i really hope not.
superb Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Looks are not everything. You're over thinking it, he probably isn't sweating you so you need to stop worrying about it and him.
Zahara Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 yes i have and i know what i have to do. i am more scared people are gonna know there was something that happened with us two and i will look like a whore. i really hope not. Well, stop sharing about your dealings with him at work. Go to work to work and keep your private life, private. The only way people are going to know is if you talk. 1
Author krista28 Posted November 12, 2013 Author Posted November 12, 2013 Oh. i won't talk.. and at work ill act super confident and ignore him. There's no way we could be in contact even if i tried ..fbook and trxt which seems extreme...my friend did kinda threaten him tho
Zahara Posted November 12, 2013 Posted November 12, 2013 Tell your friend to stay out of it. You're a grown woman and you can handle yourself and the situation. Too much drama over one date, a night of sex and a guy you hardly know. 1
Author krista28 Posted November 13, 2013 Author Posted November 13, 2013 I hear ya. too late though . she already got involved ....he's scared of both of us now ...says its too nuch drama to handle .
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