mysteriouschic Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Me and my ex broke up two months ago he dumped me we were together about a month a half we very serious and close spoke all the time. He jumped into a new relationship straight after and is still with the girl. First time I ignored him for 4 weeks after trying to text him. He texted me but it was a booty call message at 4am which I responded. I texted him again during the week send a hook up message as a joke spoke a little then he blocked me. I apologised for the message said I wasn't thinking straight. A week later sent "I still think about you and wonder how you're doing" So I ignored him again since he'd been ignoring me. 4 weeks later again he texts me. This time with "Are you awake?" at 2am he works the night shift.. What was his intentions for this message? was it another booty call? or talk out of boredom. I ignored it but still wonder why he even texted me. He blocked me the next day on whatsapp an hour later after he saw that I didn't reply. Even though I can text him. He seems to disappear the more I text him keep reappearing the more I ignore him . We never had sex together only made out.My profile picture on whatsapp was me and this guy. His was him with a girl on his shoulders. Is he trying to attempt to talk to me and reacting out of annoyance that I ignored him? which I usually don't do.
d0nnivain Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Your statement that you two were very serious after a whopping 45 days together (a month & a half) strikes me as ridiculous. Building toward serious but no way were you actual there yet, especially since the relationship has been broken up for almost the same amount of time you were together. The guy actually sounds like a player. . . . he moves too fast, then back off, but then wants to real the naive girl back in. Change your whatsapp picture. 2
strive Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 He's just fixated on having sex with you because you never got to be one of his 'conquests'
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 Change your whatsapp picture. How come's I should change the picture?it was a new one not of me and him.
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 We didn't get together right away after about 2 weeks but we were acting like a couple from the start we just had this chemistry and got on very well. We spoke everyday. I don't know he doesn't seem like a player from how we've talked. He does have a charm with texting not as much in person. Why did he reblock me? he just seems to keep coming back I haven't tried no contact more than 4 weeks yet most likely he's going to try again.
d0nnivain Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 How come's I should change the picture?it was a new one not of me and him. Sorry. I thought you said it was of the two of you. That's what I get for skimming.
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 I'm a thinking he had the grass is greener at the other side syndrome I did notice he'd added a girl on facebook towards the end and he dumped me and got with her. We knew a lot about each other quickly, he seemed to like me , we met up a lot or spoke everyday for hours.
Zahara Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 He keeps coming back because he thinks maybe this time he may get the booty. He blocks when you ignore him because he thinks it will f with your mind, and it's actually working. Block him and move on. Anyone that contacts you during the wee hours of the morning only wants sex. If they saw you as anything more, they'd reach out at a reasonable hour and have an actual conversation with you. 2
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 I deleted his number so I can't actually block him until he texts again. I keep thinking he seems like he doesn't know what he wants. An since we haven't really stopped contacting each other properly , he's always been thinking I'll be there. We've been basically playing texting games but I'm not anymore. I don't think he's actually over me but maybe doesn't want me back yet but wants a hook up. The more I ignore him he seems to want me more he might miss me to some extent now the longer we don't talk the more he misses me. An we never fought in the relationship always were happy and enjoyed our time together.
Zahara Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 I deleted his number so I can't actually block him until he texts again. I keep thinking he seems like he doesn't know what he wants. An since we haven't really stopped contacting each other properly , he's always been thinking I'll be there. We've been basically playing texting games but I'm not anymore. I don't think he's actually over me but maybe doesn't want me back yet but wants a hook up. The more I ignore him he seems to want me more he might miss me to some extent now the longer we don't talk the more he misses me. An we never fought in the relationship always were happy and enjoyed our time together. Someone who isn't over you doesn't text you at 2AM to see if you are awake. Someone who isn't over you reaches out at a decent hour and communicates and doesn't seek you for a hook-up. The more you ignore, the more he wants you. It's ego driven. Don't read into things. It was a 45 day relationship and he jumped ship quick, and was probably already contemplating on the other woman way before you both ended. Stop analyzing this to death. It isn't worth it. GIGS, booty call, whatever it is, you don't want to keep yourself stuck on some guy that treats you this way. 1
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 It kind of ended after I said I love you to him by mistake then he seemed to get cold feet or scared of the commitment.
Zahara Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 It kind of ended after I said I love you to him by mistake then he seemed to get cold feet or scared of the commitment. With that, I don't think you need to keep holding on to this anymore. Try to move on and have no more contact with him.
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 Yeah thats what I'm doing and since he's ignored every attempt of message of contact that I've made. I don't think I want him back as he doesn't seem too trustful anymore just the confusion of why he seems to always text. Why did he re block me? was it because he didn't get what he wanted?
strive Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Yes, he blocked you because he is immature that way. Or maybe his girlfriend made him do it.
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 I don't think his girlfriend knows , he probably acts the way he was with me so you won't think he'd be texting anyone else. Seems like he just won't get rid of my number I always thought most people in a new relationship the first thing they do is delete the number unless they're friends. The more I think about it the way he reacted blocking me again like he was annoyed or maybe realising that I'm moving on from him an not caring about him. One of my friends said he must still have feelings for me if he keeps texting but is confused but I still need to ignore and move forward as he doesn't know what he wants, like he's in another relationship and still doesn't know what he wants and the longer I ignore him the better that I should at least no contact him for 2-3months but I won't be contacting him anyway.
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 Is my ex narcissistic? Narcissistic Curtain Calls | Elisse Stuart's Weblog
BC1980 Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 The more you ignore, the more he wants you. It's ego driven. Don't read into things. Exactly. He wants what he can't have to prove he can get it. Not because he actually cares about you.
Zahara Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Is my ex narcissistic? Narcissistic Curtain Calls | Elisse Stuart's Weblog I'm not sure why you're obsessed with what's wrong with him. He probably isn't that into you and after 45 days decided to jump ship. It could be as simple as that. And I hate to be harsh but you're trying to find some answer that you will never find. Just accept that he chose to let you go for someone else. His contact now is all about getting sex and getting an ego boost. And if you think he is narcissistic, then even more reason to stop this and move on. 1
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 9, 2013 Author Posted November 9, 2013 Yeah I think he may be now actually this sums him up pretty much. Beware the narcissistic sociopath disguised as your ?Soul Mate? | Paula's Pontifications And he did mention marrying me like after 2 weeks not that I believed it I took it as a joke but he made it sound serious.
Simon Phoenix Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 It's simple -- he's not that into you and any interest he has is physical. We aren't trying to solve The Matrix here. 2
Blastoplast Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Yo! Forget about him. 45 days? That's chump change. I was suicidally depressed for 3 months after my EX broke up with me, longer than you were together (we were together nearly 8 years). Guy sounds like a player, either that or he regrets his decision. Either way, not a mature lad and you can do better.
Author mysteriouschic Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 Yo! Forget about him. 45 days? That's chump change. I was suicidally depressed for 3 months after my EX broke up with me, longer than you were together (we were together nearly 8 years). Guy sounds like a player, either that or he regrets his decision. Either way, not a mature lad and you can do better. It took me about a month and a half and after me trying to text him or trying the 30 day contact purely to get him back I was focused on him. Failed the no contact 30 thing as he texted me which I replied spoke a little. I texted him but a stupid message we spoke again the conversation wasn't going the right way. He blocked me on whatsapp.I still texted a couple more times and after that time I decided thats the last I contact him. I've said how I feel now I'm done I'm moving on and I assumed he's just happy with his girlfriend. I was almost fully over him the day before he texted me I was wondering why I even liked him at all. Then I wake up with a text from him. It's just really bizarre he's texted around the same timeframe like after 4 weeks if I don't contact he seems wonder. Are you awake may have been him trying to make conversation. I don't know why I feel like he does still like me in some way or regretting his decision but doesn't exactly want me back just yet so it's like he wants to keep me hanging or there as a backup. An since I've never really stopped contacting him fully he's never really been without me .Him blocking me after not replying like he's trying to see if I'm still thinking about him. Either way I'm still moving forward and not contacting him as I want to move on not wait around.
Sugarkane Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 I'd completely ignore this user. Of he's with someone else, why is he even contacting you? If you as the dumpee did this, you'd get laughed at or a restraining order.
haggard969 Posted November 10, 2013 Posted November 10, 2013 my ex keeps texting me, i just freaked on her for doing it, she kept saying crap like this reminds me of this, and then the next second since i didnt reply she would be like, ****ing sick of you and your bull****, then i got mad, because im leaving her alone like she wanted n then she keeps messaging me, like wtf
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