DownNtOut Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 me and my ex gf split up a year ago. we had been going out for 10 months. we kept in touch and met up about once a month for coffee or cinema. in april i asked her if she would get back with me. she said no. we stayed in contact and in july we went to a concert. she stayed over and we hooked up that night. she stayed in bed with me til lunch time and then had to go. a week later i went to her town and spilled my guts to her and said i was so in love with her and wanted to be with her. she said she needed time to think as another ex of her wanted to get with her. two days later she told me she was trying again with her other ex, who lives in her town. she said she loved me in a friendship companion way. a month of NC, she texts me to say she will be at the same music festival as me. the 1st night we spend 4-5 hours dancing and i walk her back to her tent. the 2nd day we spend together and kissed alot, seen loads of bands and had loads of fun. she suggested we spend the night together but not in a sexual way. we slept together the 2nd night. the 3rd day we spent in each others company and with mates in a group. after the festival i gave her space. a month back i asked her to a concert and she agreed to go. we had dinner and the concert was great. its crazy how we can chat so easily. when we got back to mine she was leaving i said to her maybe its better we dont see each other for a while. we chatted for a hour, i asked her what was us being together at the festival all about as she had been back with her bf for a month. she said she never felt the way she feels with me with anyone else. said she could be herself with me. i told her she is who i want to be with. i told her to to think about it. asked her to meet again in a week. she said she needed more time than that to think, i said ok. 3days later she text to say she was still thinking. i said take your time. so i called her last friday to meet. we met monday. chatted for 4 hours in a cafe. i walked her to her car. asked her has anything changed. she said she was staying with her bf. she said her bf makes her feel the same as i do/did. she said she knows how i feel and that she would leave it up to me to contact her. she said she would never not want to meet up as friends. she said she loves to chat to me as she thinks im a great guy. i said i would need alot of time to heal and get over her. during our chat in the cafe she asked me if i wanted to go on a trip with her and some other people. including her bf i guess. i not goin as i told her i dont wanna see her for now. shes left the ball in my court as to contacting her. does she feel sorry for me? what the hell was the last 6 months about? was i ever really an option? grass always greener? how long do you think her and the other ex will last? should i never contact her again? sorry about the long post i just want other peoples point of view thanks
strive Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 She couldn't let you go and she couldn't let him go. But she chose to be with her bf because she knows she can have you whenever she wants you. You're her backup plan that she can string along in case they break up. But the real question you should be asking is: if she's cheating on him with you, what would stop her from doing the same to you IF you get together? would you really want to be in a relationship with a cheater?
d0nnivain Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 She sees you as a friend nothing more but the sex is good. She doesn't want to date you. If you are OK with the status quo, being with her part way on her terms early & watching her move on with your love life, keep doing what you are doing. Now that the BF is back, the benefits will stop & I bet at his insistence she cuts you out of her life all together. Sorry.
ponchsox Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 She would have to be SUPER hot for me to put up with this BS. 1
Haydn Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Sorry mate, you are being used. Get out of this now before you drive yourself nuts. She laughing at you thinking she can do whatever she wants. Move on and find a new hobby. Take care.
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