RetroMan Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 For those who don't know me on here that well, I'm 21 and have had no luck at all in getting a girlfriend. Hell, I haven't even had my first snog yet! Now, loads will tell me on here that it shouldn't matter and that it's no race and it'll happen when it happens etc... Now, I know it's not a race but I am BORED! I think, personally, that I am MORE than ready for that kind of thing, but I'm not the most accomplished flirt in the world so that is why I am asking for tips today... ...a girl recently returned to the theatre where I work (not a cinema! the playhouse type) for the pantomime season. Whenever panto rolls around, alot of the other hosts (or ushers) come back from university for the holidays and for some casual work. Anyway, I've known her for quite a long time. She worked there shortly after I started about 2 and a half years ago but we've never really spoken much until recently. It's partly because she might feel a lot of people she used to know have left since she went away except me, but she's been alot friendlier towards me and more approachable...but then I've also changed alot since I started. It's a very sociable sort of place which brings people out of themselves. We had a press-night party in our theatre bar the other night, and we spent alot of the night talking to each other. I didn't have too much trouble because I had been drinking a bit. Conversation flowed nicely and she seemed to be giving me some good signals. She even went up to request a song for me so that she could encourage me to get onto the dancefloor with her. I almost thought that I might be 'in'. I did go and dance, but I didn't get any further than that on this occasion. I think it's partly cos she was tipsy, but I was DRUNK! The terrible thing is when I am getting drunk, I just assume everyone is as much as I am when, looking back, that wasn't the case at all. I think I looked a bit of a pratt dancing I also caught sight of myself in the mirror after I got home and saw another reason why she might have been put off. I do fancy this girl...she's the kind of girl that everyone could fancy. She's pretty, tall with a perfect figure, blonde and also large chested. You get the picture. But she's intelligent and nice as well. Thing is though, being the way she is, she knows men will fancy her, and she may have got that impression from me...but I always only take it up to a certain point and then never make that final jump...partly cos I don't really know what to do next, and that's what the point of this post is. She's leaving again for uni shortly after new year so there's no chance of anything long-term, but I'd quite like to see if I could, well, 'pull her' before she does. Christmas / New Year parties coming up and so on. I just need to know how to act right now. When I'm at work, not drunk, I find it so hard to strike up conversation. She's tried a couple of times...all smiles..."hello! how are you..." but I just cut it short cos I don't want her to 'think I just fancy her' and find it hard to find the right way to present myself. Fact is though, she's a girl who expects to be chased I think, and isn't used to making the effort herself. She isn't shallow, but it's just how she is. She can afford to sit back. What's the best thing to do? If you need any more elaboration, let me know! Ta. Retroman
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