Alex. Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Hey there. All advice and opinions welcome. So Me and my last major ex broke up about four months ago. It was complicated, but basically she had been dealing with some mental sickness since before we started going out and was trying my best to support her. She said was tired of hurting me, but I also think she wanted space to grow on her own. Co-dependency had also started becoming a part of our relationship, which was making us both unhappy. Afterwards I initiated a no contact plan as I needed time and separation to sort my head and heart out. Its been a pretty full on last couple of months, but I have also grown a ton and everyday I feel like I have moved in a better direction than the day before. We have texted little over the last couple of months, mostly initiated by her. I have been trying to stay as distant as possible for me, as I has just felt like the right thing to do. Anyway the other day I got a message from her saying "I think I'd like to catch up with you sometime, when you're ready. No rush, I just dont want us to drift away forever". My response was "I doubt that will happen to us. If two people want a connection the amount of time between is irrelevant. Let me think about it." Before this the last thing I heard from her was a note she wrote me in my things when I went to get them, saying something along the lines of "hey. I hope you have been doing well. I have been doing well and both me and my psychiatrist are happy with my progress. I look forward to the day we are both healed enough to talk as friends". This, combined with a number of other interactions we have had, makes me believe she definitely wants to see me. Her intentions behind that though is what I am curious about. Its possible she doesn't even know herself. So yeah. Im considering what would be the right course of action, for me. On one hand I would be lying if I said I haven't missed her at all. We were deeply inlove. On the other hand I'm worried that seeing her will spark up emotions I have spent the last four months getting over and coming to terms with. What do you think? Thanks
organizedchaos Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Do you want to just be her friend and nothing more? If not, then what's the point?
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