lillybear1 Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Hey! Thanks for reading Background: this guy and I have been talking online since March very consistently. We met mid-summer. Went on our first official date in the beginning of August and saw each other pretty consistently every week. He has since asked me to be his girlfriend. There is a bit of distance, as he is a bit over an hour away, but we usually talk everyday. Sometimes every other day, but quite frequently. I'm a college student and he has graduated and is a few years out of college in a job. Okay, anyway, ever since I talked to him online, we just clicked. We always had something to talk about. It was never dull. That quickly translated into in-person conversation. Really, really great chemistry. As time progressed, I have found him taking over a huge portion of my daily thoughts. I daze off in class. I take forever to do homework. I find it more fun to daydream. I smile the second he texts me. I smile when I think about him. I get butterflies. I want to bring him up all the time. In everything. To everyone. And I want everyone to meet him. I plan my week around seeing him and am always really sad when he leaves. I'd talk to him all the time if I could. I think he's genuinely one of the best people I know. I feel incredibly lucky that I ended up with someone like him. I could go on and on, but you get what I'm saying. I feel like that sounds decently solid... But there are also some things that make me question if it is love or close to it. He makes me incredibly happy, but sometimes he does things that kill me. For instance, he is terrible at texting me back about important things. For instance, we were going to hang out a few weekends ago and he needed to text his friend to see what time he was leaving. I said okay and waited. TWO DAYS later he finally texts me. That's one example, but it's things like that that will drive me crazy sometimes. It's like a roller coaster. I am so so happy, but he also has the potential to make me pretty frustrated. I never call him out on it, necessarily, because it's not worth an argument (these are little things and honestly, I've considered the fact that maybe I overreact). But isn't love blind of flaws? This is one of the very, very few I can find, but still. & I don't think it's lust necessarily. We have only kissed (not even frenched), and I'm okay with it. He moves really slow for a variety of reasons and it doesn't phase me. I care enough to move as slow as he needs. In conclusion, I definitely think I've fallen. I'm just not sure if I've hit yet. I'm so scared that he will say it, I won't expect it, and will have no idea what to say. He has a tendency to surprise me, so I am trying to get an idea. This would be my first love, so I'm not sure if I'm reading my feelings right at all. Sorry for the novel.
d0nnivain Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 You are infatuated. The differences between love / lust / infatuation can be debated until we are all blue in the face. the vocabulary doesn't diminish the intensity of the feelings. If he tells you that he loves you, if you are feeling it, go ahead & say it back. I wouldn't say it to him first but if you must, save if for a time when you are together in person so you can look him in the eyes.
ponchsox Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 You are setting yourself up for a BIG letdown and heartbreak. True love takes a while to develop and has to be given from both sides.
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