emky956 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 We met a couple times in the past & he is an old close friend of my family. We talked online for two weeks before we went on a first date. We had a really great time and went on two more dates after that. Then he canceled on me twice this week yet he'll still text me things like "you're so awesome and beautiful", "I love spending time with you", and "I feel so lucky to have you" and "I want to take things slow with you because I like you so much." We are both recently single so I have no idea if he is dating other girls and saying the same things to them or not. I'm not sure if I should start dating other people or if he genuinely likes me and wants to be with me. He made excuses the past couple times I asked him out yet he'll call me to talk and text me sweet things. Does it sound like he's leading me on?
d0nnivain Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Honestly, I don't know. My philosophy was always that until 2 people had a discussion & an agreement to be exclusive, that both parties were free to date other people. Sometimes I did date more than 1 person at a time, sometimes I either didn't want to or there was no available to date. If I were you I would assume, until told other wise, that he was dating other people. Why did he cancel the last 2 dates? If they were legitimate reasons, stop worrying. If his reasons were vague or otherwise sounded like BS, assume you are being played. You might not be, but you won't get hurt as badly my way. Talk to him next time you see him. Ask if he's dating other people. tell him how you feel about that & what you would like moving forward.
Versacehottie Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 Maybe. Maybe not. Needless to say, you should be dating others and assume he is until you have the TALK. Also you should let him ask YOU out and make the plans if you want to know his real level of interest--especially if you have been the one asking him out already
felicity1 Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 When a guy really likes you, he won't cancel/turn down dates, it's clear he's into you. When you start questioning whether he likes you or not, it's time to let go. Worrying makes you stressed. If you want, ask him what's going on, but he'll probably just be vague as usual and tell you the same old thing "let's take it slow". When you distance yourself from him and start dating other guys, it will give him the space to work out what he really wants. He seems like one of those guys who "gets off" on keeping girls hanging and makes them grovel after him, it boosts his ego, but diminishes yours. So I'm saying don't let yourself get stressed and move on. Don't let any guy mess with you.
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