777doom Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 I was looking for some advice if you wouldn’t mind, and I will try to keep this short. So my ex moved away back to her home country after about 7 months of our relationship (still only 2-3 hours travel away across the English channel)and right around the time of starting university decided to call things of. It was actually at the end of a trip I had taken to go and see her and I have never seen someone cry as much as she did when it happened. A few days later after I had come home she said she had spoken to her parents a lot and that she broke up too early and wanted to at least try whilst she was at university, I probably rushed back in, and so 3 days later she said we had to stop ‘definitely’. After this point I stopped initating any contact, she spoke to me on facebook 3 times (each 4 days apart), until I told her that I needed some time to myself and I wasn’t going to speak to her for a while. I went into no contact for 4 weeks but it hurt so much by the end, I contacted her again via text (whatsapp). She was really glad to hear from me and wanted to know everything that I had been upto in the last month, she said sorry for it being like a police investigation. During this first conversation she said that she had badly wanted to talk to me during the 4 weeks, and that she was ‘aggresed’ by 2 guys on a night out and really wished that I was there. I didn’t initiate any contact again and then 6 days later (last Sunday – 3rd Nov) she texted me again to see if I could talk. This time we spoke about how things ended and a few things came out: She said she still loved me, occasionally she still cries when something reminds her of me. Also her best friends thought she was making the worst decision of her life and finally that she has a ball/dance at her university in 2 weeks and she is taking someone but it is just a friend (well there is the sprinkle of jealousy on her part). This has left me somewhat confused and a little bit angry towards her. She has said before that she doesn’t want to look for someone else but she needs to focus on her life at uni which is fair enough. But why would she tell me these things, I am not here to be an emotional crutch. I only have one option and that is to carry on as if this never happened, if she really wants to change then she will push hard enough right? She told me that ‘maybe in a few months I will realise that I made a mistake, but it will be too late then and there will be nothing I can do’. What can/should I do? I would only consider taking her back if she travelled to my country and talk about it but somehow I doubt that will happen, certainly not anytime soon. I just feel like it is incredibly unfair for her to say this, what are her reasons behind it?
sad_bubble Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 She is playing games, and doing anything how she feels like. Ou dear. This is happenning to me right now as well. But your situation is better. She doesn't say anything nasty? Does she? My one does. Anyway, I know it hurts, but if you would take her back, once again she could play with your feelings until she feels like it. I had the same thing for quite a long time. If you start there may be some really good days together, but then she will say something hurtful again, bringing you down. Sadness, confusion, mixed emotions. It hurts, but because of this I decided not to get back with my ex. with time happiness is coming back. It is your choice if you want someone to play with your emotions, someone who does not appreciate you as much as you should be.
Author 777doom Posted November 10, 2013 Author Posted November 10, 2013 No she does not say anything nasty to me, maybe she I just trying to see if I am still going to react to her or not and gauging where I am with moving on? Still haven't spoken since, it's hard but I think it's necessary...
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