Ethereal Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 This week has been the worst week since my break up 2 months ago because I was silly and broke NC trying to looking for closure, and he ignored me. I'm feeling so down and lost that I feel like I can't do anything. I'm over the tears now and can easily put on a fake happy face in front of my friends and family but I find I can't focus on my work... Two hours ago I told myself I would get on with my work and finally get some progress made on this project I've been planning, and guess what? Those two hours have passed and I've done NO work. I've spent the whole time on this forum and googling "No Closure from Ex Boyfriend" and "Ex Boyfriend ignoring me" Le sigh... I want to stop being heartbroken so I can do something productive but it's so hard!
Nubcake Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Same effect on me and it makes me not interested in anything. Woke up today and stayed in bed for hours, cryed. Got up sat on swing outside for an hour, cryed. Stuff I would like to do like watch tv shows online while in bed only makes me think of my ex who would watch the same thing and cuddle. Hate it
barefootinthepark Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Oh, I know how you feel... I have had those days many times. Sometimes, that's what you need to do - to be sad and to acknowledge how you feel and not try to be fake. Be sad, grieve, but then also think about these things: 1) Is this person grieving for me and what we had in the way I am? Or, are they living their life and moving forward while I'm lying in bed, crying? 2) You deserve better than this. Someone who truly cares about you, and I am learning this the hard way, is not going to ignore you. Sure, they may lay low for a while or take their time to get back to you because they are hesitant to go back down that road again, but they will acknowledge you. You will get through this... You're going to wake up one day and feel like you want to do something you enjoy - even if it's something simple. Love!
faithfully Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 things will get a lot better with time. Its only 2 months since your BU. Give it time. Cry!!! get it out your system!!! Do what you need to do to make you feel better. But I will tell you something when you are over this person, could be 6months to 3 years you will look back and think, wtf was all this bull**** about. you would prob look and think what an idiot I was, I cant believed I suffered for such a prick and you would prob feel embarrassed and laugh it off. you will be ok. Keep busy.
GeorgesIsntAtHome Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 (edited) same here, been late twice for work this week, just feel unmotivated I just wanna sit a home and think.. We seem to belong to a category of people who like it when things are clear, no unresolved issues, I know I have a hard time functionning when something is bugging me, and it shows, people see it... it sucks cause these are the times where you wanna do things to forget, but the unresolved issue pop in mind and then you just wanna disappear and be alone.. my toughts on this is DO greave, stay home, be miserable, dont shave, dont care, eat take out, until you have thought about everything there is to think about and THEN move on , work out, go out with friends, meet new people, and don't look back..... doing activities and meeting new people when you're not in the right mindset is useless, you wont be feeling good ... it may go against what everybody says, but thats my opinion, take time to heal! everything else will be so much easier and enjoyable after.. Edited November 8, 2013 by GeorgesIsntAtHome
ponchsox Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 You know what I said, "She doesn't control my life and I'm going to use this time to date other people and have some fun" This is actually a good thing! I'm a single guy, nothing to tie me down, and I'm sure as hell not going to let a single mom with a crazy ex control my life.
HorseLuck Posted November 9, 2013 Posted November 9, 2013 I said the exact same thing today. It's been about two months. Accomplished nothing! Still have to get ready..trying to push myself to see a movie outdoors.. I have done jack-squat since the divide. It's insane, lol.
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